Ask Me Help Desk - I want him to want me

So this is a bit long but...

I had started seeing a guy that I really liked a few months ago. We were not in an exclusive relationship, and I think he is still on the rebound after a recent break up and not ready for anything really serious. Also his ex has started communication a little while ago as well. So last week I broke things off with him and told him we could not hang out under romantic circumstances anymore because I felt strongly about him and did not want to get hurt in the future. It was all very diplomatic and relaxed. He seemed a little surprised but said he understood and respected this.

I am moving on, but I still have lingering feelings as I really liked him. My question is, has anyone experience with this? I'm just curious to hear story of anyone who's been in a similar situation, and what the outcome was (never heard from him again, got back together, etc). And any tips people have (not just the 'moving on' ones, but maybe a few of the 'how to make him miss you' ones too, 'cause I want to feel a bit better? :)

That's... a bit bizarre. As I'm reading your story, I'm thinking, "holy cow...this may very well be the girl I went out on a date with last week..."

Although, in my case, I am no longer on the rebound (my ex and I broke it off 4 months ago)... however, my ex DID start calling me since last week.

It's good that you communicated with him, and told him exactly how you felt. It's also good that you're thinking/acting rational by moving on and not letting yourself get hurt. If this guy really likes you, and sees potential in a relationship between the two of you, he'll come looking for you once he's fully over his ex.

Thanks for the feedback...
It's been a little while now, but I miss him terribly. Haven't contacted him since, but can feel myself wavering... not sure what I would even say , since I don't want to restart anything if the situations would be the same as before...
Oh dear. Why do we sometimes meet the right people at the wrong time? We have an amazing connection and I'm very sad to let it go, although my consolation is that I'm assuming the feeling was probably not completely mutual. I have never broken things off with someone when things were just starting-

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Originally Posted by maria16

so this is a bit long but...

i had started seeing a guy that i really liked a few months ago. we were not in an exclusive relationship, and i think he is still on the rebound after a recent break up and not ready for anything really serious. also his ex has started communication a little while ago as well. so last week i broke things off with him and told him we could not hang out under romantic circumstances anymore because i felt strongly about him and did not want to get hurt in the future. it was all very diplomatic and relaxed. he seemed a little surprised but said he understood and respected this.

i am moving on, but i still have lingering feelings as i really liked him. my question is, has anyone experience with this? i'm just curious to hear story of anyone who's been in a similar situation, and what the outcome was (never heard from him again, got back together, etc). and any tips people have (not just the 'moving on' ones, but maybe a few of the 'how to make him miss you' ones too, 'cause i want to feel a bit better?? :)

Ignore Him!!