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  • Apr 20, 2008, 01:11 PM
    Pinktastick
    But I love him.
    Okay so I'm talking 2 this boy but we don't go out but we have some what of a realationship and we did tha do lmao.. but he treats me really bad... but I love him sooo much.. and when I saii I'm done with him and tired then hell saii he's sorry but do tha same thing.Should I stick it out,give up on him,or tell him once and for all how I feel and then if he still doesn't care call it quits? Keep in mind I love him despite how bad he acts.
  • Apr 20, 2008, 03:52 PM
    COOKIE MONSTER
    Well you've nothing to lose tell him how you feel and if things don't change then id move on
  • Apr 20, 2008, 03:52 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Girl, if you are loving a boy no matter how bad he treats, what does it matter? Do you wait until he rubs your face in the mud or is being a doormat OK?
    How do you love someone who uses and abuses you. Get some counseling and leave this boy alone.
  • Apr 20, 2008, 03:55 PM
    Homegirl 50
    What does it matter what you tell him. Do you honestly think that if you tell him you love him he will automatically stop treating you like crap?
    He will continue to treat you as bad as you allow him to.
  • Apr 22, 2008, 11:40 PM
    blacksinz
    Well you should ask him why is he always treating you so badly. If he continue to do this you should just move on. He might not be the guy who deserves your love. A lot of guys would kill to be loved
  • May 1, 2008, 10:15 AM
    thegreatestviz
    I agree with homegirl 50
    If you love him and he mistreats you then why do you love him
    Just becoz its love? it may be an obsession or an infactuation

    But frankly if a guy doesn't treat his g/f right its your ignorance that is keeping you in pain..
    Either you tell him that you want to treated good or just quit on him maybe he is not worth.who knows the next guy you go out with will actually love you more for who you are.just keep trying.. and never just fall in love.. it can hurt... if you know he will never quit on you and will love you always and treat you right then only take real interest in him...

    Hope you do what's right
  • May 1, 2008, 12:08 PM
    JBeaucaire
    You're at the point in your life where you are learning HOW to respond to your feelings of "love" for boys. This is very important. As you've already found out, you are capable of liking/loving someone no matter what a jerk he is or is to YOU. Isn't that odd? But it's true.

    My point is that RIGHT NOW you are teaching your mind and heart how you will deal with truth. If faced with a choice between following feelings for a guy (feelings you CAN'T control or explain) or following common sense and only sticking around people that make your life better, you are choosing the guy right now.

    You have GOT to take the time to teach yourself what is important in life. Now is the time to do it, too. If you let this "follow your heart regardless" stick in your character, you will set yourself up for a life of misery, and you'll forever be asking "why do the guys I love treat me like crap?"

    The answer is because you stay close to guys like that and LET it happen. If you can learn now to ignore feelings for people who are bad, giving yourself time for the next feelings for the next guy to occur... and so on until you find yourself attracted to and possibly dating a NOT-jerk, then you've found the path that will lead to a good match. Someday.

    Right now, your heart is your enemy and you need to train it to behave. That's why you have a mind and a spirit, too, to tell your heart to "cool it" when it's screwing up your life.
  • May 1, 2008, 12:15 PM
    Gernald
    I agree with what everyone says above.

    And... you obviously don't love him because your having second thoughts about him. That's not love, love is knowing for sure that he'll love you in return and treat you nice, and care about you just as much as you care about him. That's not happening here.

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