I'm 33 years old .I m dating a21 year girl for the last 3 months.my problem is that she is very shy. Though she has the urge to have sex but being very shy we couldn't go all the way yet.she holds my penice in her hand but doesn't look at it.when I suck her breast she turns her head .she is very shy of getting naked in front of me.what do I do

You slow down and wait for her to be more ready, and more comfortable with you and her own body.

Not only slow down, but actively let her get comfortable, at her own pace. What's the hurry.

And you keep tormenting her because..

She's too young emotionally for you, you're 33!!

Is it a Freudian slip that I never read the word "Love" ,could be she saw the same slip in how you treat her. If you love her all you need is time. If you don't love her leave her the hell alone!

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Originally Posted by javed333uk

i m 33 years old .i m dating a21 year girl for the last 3 months.my problem is that she is very shy. though she has the urge to have sex but being very shy we couldnt go all the way yet.she holds my penice in her hand but doesnt look at it.when i suck her breast she turns her head .she is very shy of getting naked in front of me.what do i do

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Go slow... if this is her first time... you want to make it magical... be so loving and caring and gentle... (if she decides she wants more)... if you take care of her... she will... learn what to do to take care of you

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Originally Posted by javed333uk

i m 33 years old .i m dating a21 year girl for the last 3 months.my problem is that she is very shy. though she has the urge to have sex but being very shy we couldnt go all the way yet.she holds my penice in her hand but doesnt look at it.when i suck her breast she turns her head .she is very shy of getting naked in front of me.what do i do

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You should tell just tell her that, your not ready that you ,just want to take it slow.

Maybe tormenting is too strong a word... I couldn't think of a word that expressed my negative feelings about this situation... this young, innocent girl(more like 12 than 21) could be in big trouble if this man seduces her...

Just slow down and don't push her. Let her come to you, let her start things and only go as far as she is comfortable with going. If you rush her into something she's not comfortable with, the situation may become worse. Just don't put pressure on her; there's nothing wrong with either of you, just let the shy girl bloom into the sensuous woman she wants to be when she's ready.

You should definitely slow down. There might be some underlying issues that are causing her to be shy like this. In no way should you force her to do things she is uncomfortable with. Talk with her about it and let her get comfortable at her own pace rather than pushing her when she's not ready yet

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Originally Posted by javed333uk

i m 33 years old .i m dating a21 year girl for the last 3 months.my problem is that she is very shy. though she has the urge to have sex but being very shy we couldnt go all the way yet.she holds my penice in her hand but doesnt look at it.when i suck her breast she turns her head .she is very shy of getting naked in front of me.what do i do

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I'm a female and I definitely think if you care enough about her... SLOW DOWN. And if she's never quite ready maybe she's using you for other things i.e. money. Get to know her and study her actions because any woman who really loves a man understands sex is a beautiful thing for her and her partner. And she's 21 years old... these days that isn't very young at all unless she is omish.

If you love her this shouldn't happen.. love melts all shyness.

I've dated many shy women... You have to take it slow and be extra respectful towards them, if they feel pressure they will shut down... show them that that you are more interested in getting into their heart than into their pants and you will find even some of the shyest women can be real tigers.

And if you are honest in your pursuit of her heart, mind and soul then you will be rewarded.