Ask Me Help Desk - What do I do, should I move on?

We met a while back he was really nice and flirty, and we really hit it off, I wasn't trying to find someone but when I found him, I really liked him. SO I admit I did push for things to happen and then did. At the time it seemed like he had a really attached ex-girlfriend and I was fine with that so we started dating , I put up with his ex and helped him through it because he was losing her friendship, I helped him make things for her gift, sort of hoping that it was for me(cause he made it seem like they were). A couple of months later I found out I was the 3rd person and all the feelings that I had felt like "she was stealing him" I felt so horrible because I stole him. And now 7 months after we started we broke up. I found out from her (the ex) that he kiss her when him and I were together and he didn't deny it, it did really bother me cause we weren't together but he does have a history of cheating on everyone of his ex's. The thing is yes we aren't together but we are still sleeping with each other, still calling each other pet names, hugging kissing everything that would be in a relationship. But he won't call it a relationship, he wants to just be friends well call it friends he won't say that we are seeing each other. He he just using me? But he makes me so happy and should I just move one. I'm so confused and constantly justifying him

Not to judge, but you're a friend, with benefits, a booty call. Of course he doesn't want that to change, why should he. This is not a relationship you want, so chalk it up to experience, and disappear from his life.

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Originally Posted by blueelephant

We met a while back he was really nice and flirty, and we really hit it off, i wasn't trying to find someone but when i found him, i really liked him. SO i admit i did push for things to happen and then did. at the time it seemed like he had a really attached ex-girlfriend and i was fine with that so we started dating , i put up with his ex and helped him through it because he was losing her friendship, i helped him make things for her gift, sort of hoping that it was for me(cause he made it seem like they were). a couple of months later i found out i was the 3rd person and all the feelings that i had felt like "she was stealing him" i felt soo horrible because i stole him. and now 7 months after we started we broke up. i found out from her (the ex) that he kiss her when him and i were together and he didn't deny it, it did really bother me cause we weren't together but he does have a history of cheating on everyone of his ex's. the thing is yes we aren't together but we are still sleeping with each other, still calling each other pet names, hugging kissing everything that would be in a relationship. but he won't call it a relationship, he wants to just be friends well call it friends he won't say that we are seeing each other. he he just using me? but he makes me so happy and should i just move one. i'm so confused and constantly justifying him

Move on. Nice and flirty don't make for stable relationships. If he has a history of cheating, that is what you will end up marrying. You have already sold yourself for less. He is using you to feel better and it is a no win situation for you. Don't get involved with men that are relationship messes. MOVE ON--not a nice guy.