It's next to impossible for any of us to comment on him, we know nothing of him, his habits, mental state, opinion of you, nothing. But I can comment on your post. It's so hard to handle all the conflicting thoughts and desparities, isn't it? I read your other post too, so think I know where you're coming from. So, I'll take what you said and translate it into something I hope you'll find helpful.
I hope someone can help me. I posted a question about this same guy a few days ago.
Translation: Others have told me to calm down and enjoy my relationship, but I've decided to obsess anyway.
I am crazy about my this guy I've been dating, things had been going great I thought. We usually text every day and he has been coming up to see me alot during the week and staying the whole weekend with me. In fact he was just here Tuesday night and we had a great night together.
Translation: Things are going fine, but I'm going to obsess anyway.
We have not been having any problems, and now I feel that he may be blowing me off.
Translation: See, no problems = me thinking there are problems. (I wonder what the problem could be?)
The last time he texted me was wednesday morning, and I have not heard from him since!
Translation: I text too much, especially when I'm in obsession-mode.
This is so unlike him, he has never done this before...He is in the military and got back from Iraq a couple of months ago, and I know he is having issues at work.
Translation: Anything I don't like about his life way from me is probably going to send me into a frantic search across the internet for reassurance he still loves me. This is important to know since it won't matter later when I find out what was really going on and how it had nothing to do with me, because my freakouts give me cause to not be fair about that stuff.
I called him last night to make sure he was ok, and got voice mail. I really thought he cared for me, and that our relationship was growing.
Translation: Not having unfettered access to my man at all times is a sure sign of lack-of-love. Phone companies should be held accountable for the relationship damage they do allowing people to have voice mail services. It's just wrong.
I'm so devastated that he is not talking to me, I feel sick. I don't know what I could have done to make him not want to talk to me.
Translation: Not knowing if there is anything wrong in the first place, I've decided on my own to make sure that something IS wrong with us by the time he gets back to me. He hasn't given me any cause to distrust him or us or anything, but that's no excuse, he'll regret ever calling me again when I let him have it...that's my new goal.
What should I do? I can't believe I have not heard from him in 3 days! So sad
Translation: Don't you all all agree how awful it is?
RESPONSE
No, we don't agree. I'm going to pretend he's MY friend and talk to you like that's the case, ok?
- Get off his case.
- Don't you dare get angry/upset/lecturish/sad/despondent all on your own!
- Get a life of your own, now, today, obsess over that instead of this defenseless war hero.
- After developing life of your own, THEN consider letting someone call you GF. Apparently you can't handle it right now....at all.
