My parents had found out some things about me that they didn't like:i had a boyfriend,I'd been sneaking out to see him and I have had sex with him. Now they make it so there is no contact between us, but we do go to separate schools but when I have a chance I try to talk to him. Right now I hate my parents and believe they are ruining my life. Is it okay to feel like this? Am I the only one?

We have all felt like that at some point in our lives. You feel like you parents are going to ruin everything you have worked so hard for and they don't want you to have fun and don't realize your not a kid anymore. The truth is that they are looking out for your best interest, they don't want you to get hurt emotionally or physically. Also, Hate is such an evil word, please don't hate them, be mad at them, but try to realize that they are trying to do what they think is right. You need to communicate, sit down with your parents. Use a timer and you each get a couple minutes of uninterrupted time to plead your case. The key is that both parties have to be open to actually listen to what is being said by the other and not interupting. It is not easy, but talking is the first step to a middle ground. Good luck.

Technically, you didn't really give them much of a choice. Instead of acting like a mature and responsible teenage daughter, you lied to them, snuck out of their house, and slept with him. To them, you acted immaturely and irresponsibly. This is why they're treating you like this. Perhaps you told them about your boyfriend, and asked them for advice... what's the worst that could have happened? Perhaps they would have told you to think about it and focus on school first... seeing as your username has your birthday, you're 15. What're you doing having sex at 15!

With that said, your parents aren't ruining your life... it may seem like it's the end of the world, but it's really not. Also, like gregisteredtrademark said, they're doing what they think is best for you, and trust me, they have more experience than you do. They may be wrong, but parents are right MOST of the time when it comes to such generic things.

It's totally normal.. its just really weird for parents to find out that their kids have sex and stuff.. especially when it's behind their back and you didn't talk to them about it first. I'm not here to tell you to become an angel child all of a sudden, I'm just saying maybe try to understand where your parents are coming from.
if you really do have proper feelings for your boyfriend and it kills you that you can't see him, just try to talk to them about it and ask them to ease up a little.. but don't shout or get angry, you are their daughter and they're only human.. they won't want to see their child so upset, good luck with everything =]

How old are you?

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Originally Posted by jennyboo122292

My parents had found out some things about me that they didnt like:i had a boyfriend,i'd been sneaking out to see him and i have had sex with him. Now they make it so there is no contact between us, but we do go to seperate schools but when i have a chance i try to talk to him. Right now i hate my parents and believe they are ruining my life. Is it okay to feel like this? Am i the only one?

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yea its normal
ive kinda been in the same situation

Honey, being a parent is the hardest job in the world.

I remember when I was 15 I though I knew everything, I though I could control any situation and I also thought that nothing bad could ever happen to me, boy was I wrong. You have put yourself in a dangerous position, you are having sex, sex causes pregnancy, even if you are using protection, there is not contraceptive that is 100% effective. Sex can also cause STD's, again, not contraceptive is 100%. Your parents realize this and they don't want to see anything happen to you.

Sometimes you have to be mean in order to protect the ones you love, and they do love you, if they didn't then they wouldn't do anything about this, they'd just let you keep having sex.

One day you will be a parent and then you'll understand, you really will, I do now. Try and remember that they were your age once too, they know more than you think they do about what goes on in the world, and they want to protect you from it.

Good luck.

No you're not the only one. I've felt like that too in fact I'm currently hiding my boyfriend from my parents which is knida funny at the moment because they've found out about my last two relationships(with girls) and you'd think they'd be happy that I'm dating a guy (they are very religious and don't approve of homosexuality at all) but they will hate him purely because one they think I'm too young and two because he's not of the same religion (even though I hate our religion and as soon as I'm out of the house I'm no longer going to be a part of it) I've thought about just running away so many times

There is a reason that parents are strict, it's because they were kids once too and they know all the bad things that can happen. Hiding relationships and running away are not the answer for anyone. Your parents love you and only want what's best for you, one day you will realize this, hopefully it's not to late.

Hey they are just looking out for u. Its normal to feel that way but their just scared you might get pragnent or something. Well in life if something happens to u. Do u think your boyfriend will help u? If u get pragnent the guy for sure will leave u. And end up your parents will always be by your side to help. Don't forget that they love you k?

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Originally Posted by jennyboo122292

My parents had found out some things about me that they didnt like:i had a boyfriend,i'd been sneaking out to see him and i have had sex with him. Now they make it so there is no contact between us, but we do go to seperate schools but when i have a chance i try to talk to him. Right now i hate my parents and believe they are ruining my life. Is it okay to feel like this? Am i the only one?

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Well... your parents love you very much and no they have no right to tell you to just stop seeing him espcailly if you love him I'm 14 yrs old and believe me you are lucky to have parents who love you enough to tell you no and look at the world today theirs baby's havein baby's they are just scared that something bad will happin to you and it will sooner or later... u need to show them they can trust you again 4 now stop thinking of him and think of you afater you show them they can trust you again talk to them about seeing him every weekend or something tell them what he means to you and stop trying to grow up so fast trust is a very easy think to lose and a very hard thing to get back right now show them wrong that they can trust you then talk to them... and if they say no then tell them and let him come over any ways then you and him talk to your parents and tell them how you both fill...

lovely24 makes a wonderful point that's really good advice I agree with them completely

OK I know you don't want to here this but your parents are doing the best thing for you, you had sex and that is bad, it may feel like love but chances are it's not love just wim.
Plus they aren't doing this just to annoy they are doing this to keep you from getting pregnant and ruining your life! Trust them