I am so hurt my boyfriend of 4 years and 2 kids walked out on me for some one new It's been a month today and all I have don't is beg him to come home I have cryed everyday over this dumass Last weekend they moved in togthere On the phone this pass week he told me that there is some things he miss about me and it wasn't sex I ask him if he thought about comeing home he told me he had thought about it SO when he came to see the kids I ask him to his face are you real to come home he said no So I asked tell me what it is that you miss then he said he didn't won't to talk about it She has 3 kids ages 16,8 and 7 I was hoping the kids would hate him I know that's wrong But hell with my luck they just love him!! All I won't is my family back

I'm sorry you're going through this, but is this someone you really want back? Do you want to live with and spend your life with someone you don't trust? Is this the example you want to set for your kids? To let somebody walk all over them? Have some self respect PLEASE! A very wise person once told me "if you let a man think he can screw two women, he will!"

Honey, you never had a family. Just because you have lived with this jerk, had sex and produced two kids with him does not make a family. Sorry for your situation and right now all I can offer is to drag his sorry butt into court and try and get child support from him.

I feel your pain. My husband for 2 years just filed for divorce. It is heartbreaking. But, don't be so down on yourself--someone much better will come into your life. You deserve to be treated better and I assure you in time you will feel the same way. Just think of it this way- what he did to you he probably do to her (in time). He has probably done this many times before. What goes around comes around.. maybe she will do that to him and he will see what its like. Good luck and God bless you.

He sounds very immature if he misses you and moved in with another woman. The fact you two never married and have 2 kids says it all. He does not want to be responsible for anybody except himself. You and the kids are just an afterthought for him. Sorry.

Your in shock and likely to be for a while, but stop begging him and let time settle your emotional pain so you can see things more clearly. I think its in your own favor that he is gone and you can rebuild your life a lot better without him in it. Put the well being of your kids first and get settled with child support and visitations. Don't let hurt feelings stop you from doing business and getting your own act together. Just love yourself now, and heal with time, and a lot of work, on your part. Sorry for your loss.

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Originally Posted by ReneeH40

"... I have cryed everyday over this dumass..."

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Think about it...

But George, she's cried over the "dumbass"! I guess she's just called it like it is and doesn't realize how true she was. Anyone who calls their lover a dumbass sure either sees the light or had the light fall on their head... or fell out of bed on their head and woke the heck up.

I agree with the others and even IF he did come back whose to say he wouldn't miss her and go back to her? Don't waste your time on him! IF it wasn't the sex he would come back for maybe the sex is all he wants and that is shallow!