My girlfriend says that we may break up soon, and we used to hug and kiss all the time, but she has kind of closed up. She won't let me kiss her, or hug her, and I don't know if I should break up with her, I mean, I still love her a lot, and I'm not sure.

She may have already moved on, in her mind anyway. You can hang around and wait to see if she breaks up with you, or not. Or you can move on yourself.

Love is a powerful thing. To me it sounds like she has moved on in her mind. I would break up w. her first because you won't be as hurt. Talk to her... if she doesn't show that she loves you, she could have moved on. You need someone that really loves you. Good luck.

If you plan on breaking up with her, talk to her first. Maybe there's something else going on... person issues, family issues? Ask what's going on, and tell her to be straight with you. Tell her you love her, but if she's not feeling it anymore, then you're not going to waste your time. It'll hurt more if you drag it out and cling on to something that's not there.

... she actually told you that you guys might break up soon?

... that says a lot doesn't it?

I feel like she probably told you this so you might jump the gun first, thus relieving her of her guilt. Simoeaugie's right in that she may have already moved in her mind.

I agree with the others. Try talking to her to find out what is bothering her. If she can't open up then tell her that you feel you might as well break up. She said she is thinking about it so
You can be left dangling onto what might happens or take the lead and make a clean break.

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Originally Posted by echs10

My girlfriend says that we may break up soon, and we used to hug and kiss all the time, but she has kind of closed up. She won't let me kiss her, or hug her, and I don't know if I should break up with her, I mean, I still love her alot, and I'm not sure.

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You may still have those feelings, but its obvious, she does not. I also think her actions are for you to beak up, for whatever dumb reasons she may have. I would say its time to be single again.

I agree with Tal.

That would have been the biggest sign of all. We might break up soon.

What is that really? I think it should end, right now. As soon as this person said that it should have been a big out and out honest discussion and a decision made.

No going back and forth. You want us to break up soon, what about right now should have been your response.

I agree about not dragging it out, but I also think there's a possibility she is depressed or angry with you about something. I would try to get her to open up a bit. Be curious about what has changed for her and why. Listen to her. Maybe there some particular issue, or a misunderstanding. Or maybe she expected the relationship to progress more than it has. You'll never know unless you ask.

It is possible that this is something you can work out. If you really love her, it's well worth it to ask and try to talk this out. If she's adamant that she's just not interested anymore, then yes, don't drag it out.

Good luck! I hope it turns out well for you either way.
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