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  • Apr 16, 2008, 06:16 PM
    Lil Homie
    Running away
    I'm in love with an 18 year old boy and I'm 15, I want to be with him but my mom doesn't let me see him. I see him when I go to school . I told him I want to runaway with him he said he will try to get me out the so we can be together, plus I pregnant by him and my mom doesn't know that I am.


    What should I do? Should I tell my mom? Should I runaway with the man that I love? :confused:
  • Apr 16, 2008, 06:21 PM
    Alty
    Oh, so many things I want to say, that will probably fall on deaf ears. I'll give it a try anyway.

    Honey, you are fifteen, I know that you think that you are in love, I know that to you it's the real thing, and no one can tell you different, because you know it. Well, you don't, and you aren't. You are fifteen, he is eighteen, frankly in most states it isn't even legal for you and him to be having sex. I know that you think that you will be with him forever, but trust me, you won't.

    You're pregnant with his child. Honey, how are you going to support this child, does he have a job, do you, do you have a place to live, do you know what raising a child entails? You are in way over your head, it's time to get some help. Tell your mom, and let her help you figure something out. The fact that you're pregnant makes me understand why mom didn't want you to see him. Too late now, tell mom.

    Good Luck.
  • Apr 16, 2008, 06:25 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Yes, I doubt you want to hear any real advice, and want to hear what you want to hear but as altenweg said, here goes nothing.

    You are 15 and I will be honest you have no idea what love really is, you are in lust and heat and have feelings you can't understand. And if it is really love it will still be love 2 years from now, 3 yearss from now 10 years from now.

    If you run away, he gets arrested first for interfering with custody and goes to jail, they find out you had sex and he goes to prison for statutory rape and he will be a sex offender the rest of his life.

    But yes, tell your mom, make some choices and if he loves you, he will stick by you, even if you are restricted from seeing him.

    So go talk to your mom and don't run away
  • Apr 16, 2008, 10:15 PM
    Alty
    You are the one who asked for advice, then when you get it you get all huffy.

    First, read the rules and regulations, neither my comment or Fr_Chucks comment was factually incorrect, you cannot give someone a reddie because you don't agree with their opinion.

    You are to immature to have a baby, if nothing else, your attitude has proven this.

    I don't know what you wanted to hear, or what you thought you'd hear, but honey, I tell it like I see it. I am older and wiser than you, my years on this earth have taught me many things. I am not trying to be hurtful to you, I realize that in your teenage mind you really think that you know everything, I was there once, I remember. The fact is that you know very little, you will find that out one day, unfortunately you've decided to find it out the hard way.

    Obviously nothing we say is going to get through. I doubt very much that you will get allot of posts that tell you to run away with your boyfriend and raise a baby at the age of 15.

    Good Luck.
  • Apr 16, 2008, 10:36 PM
    talaniman
    Once you get over the emotion, and shock, you will see that telling your mom is not only the right thing, but the only thing you can do. Yes she will be very upset, but she can also make sure your seen by a doctor, and given proper care for you, and your child. Stop and think, where can you run to? Who will feed you? You may love your boyfriend to death, but he can't put food on the table and he is in school too. You both need adult help through this, so telling the parents, his and yours, makes sense.

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