Okay. I know I posted here about having a crush on my friend's guy friend, but I think that I may have a crush on her as well.

I have always been straight, although I personally think that sexuality is fluid. We've always said how it's too bad she's gay and I'm straight. And the thing is... I'm not attracted to her sexually.

What's mind-boggling to me is that I am really close friends with her; I was/still am there for her when she went through a breakup (and is still going through one--she can't let go) with my other really close friend.

The thing is, I realize it bothers me more and more every time she doesn't talk to me or when she talks about the ex--my other good friend.

Er- what should I do?

Curiosity or interest doesn't always mean an attraction, nor does it mean that you're actually gay... of course it could mean that, but chances are, you two are currently going through an emotional time (your breakup and her breakup) and you two bonded over an emotional experience, shared feelings, and have become close.

I suggest you wait and see what happens and see if your feelings remain/get stronger/diminish.

Hey Sneezy,

Nice to see you here. Actually, she wasn't there for me when I was going through the breakup. In fact, we had a bit of a falling out over it. I had always been there for her; she wasn't when I needed her most. She has real problems with NC... she's broken up and gotten back together with her ex like 3 times. They had/have a mutually destructive relationship.

I see... however, I think you see what I'm trying to get at, the idea that you two simply bonded and got close doesn't necessarily mean that you're actually attracted to her.

I say this because one of my exes (4 years ago) came up to me... about 4 - 5 months after we broke up, and said, "I think I'm a lesbian..."

Of course, no guy EVER wants to hear that, mainly because it sort of makes it look like you turned her off from men.

However, my ex and her friend (we'll call her... JANE) have been spending a lot of time together. Jane told my ex that she was gay... and when Jane also told my ex about a new girl she liked, my ex got upset, which led my ex to believe she was gay, when in fact, she was just... missing that attention?

Overall, after about 2 months of that, my ex met another guy... and now lives with him.

... is that a trend with me and my exes.. The next guy they meet... they go and live with them.. It must be...

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Er- what should I do?

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Don't do anything until you get it straight in your own mind. (pun?? ) You would be mighty embarrassed if it was only a fleeting fancy.

Lol. Oh god, I would never do anything to mess up my friendship with her. Actually, I think I'm more comfortable with leaving it as it is: something innocent and platonic. :)

Besides, er- I've seen her in relationships and as much as I love her... she's intense. o_O;