So there’s this guy I like (more like love), but there’s a problem, he has a girlfriend, Jessica. She knew how I felt about him and still ASKED HIM OUT. Before, when he was single, Dylan and I talked on the phone for hours (average was 6). He always told me that he liked me more then Jessica, and how he would never go out with her. We would always flirt with each other and always were around one another he would even be waiting for me after class to see me.

Now, I’m getting the feeling that he's only going out with her to make me jealous. When the three of us are together he may be holding her or talking to her, but he always looks at me. Then I look into his eyes and he looks into mine and I can tell he still has feelings for me. He’ll always find a way to be close to me and to “touch” me. His foot or leg would be touching mine or if we are sitting side by side his hand would accidentally brush up against my leg. And he’s always getting Jessica jealous by saying that I’m "sexually seducing" him, when I’m not.

Okay and lately I’ve been writing poems and stuff about him, but I don’t use his name, just “HIM”. And every day he comes up and asks me about “HIM” and trying to figure out who “HIM” is. The other day I was IMing Jessica and she figured out that “HIM” is Dylan, and said that when she is on the phone with him he keeps on talking about who this “HIM” could be and how he really thinks it’s him. And now that I know that he thinks it him, everything he says makes sense. Most recently he told me that he doesn’t want me to have a boyfriend unless it’s “HIM”.

Maybe it’s just me but I think he still likes me. What do you think?

You need to tell him right in front of Jessica when he does these things to stop because he chose her and you don't want to be a conflict. You need to throw the fault back at him and at the same time you can subtly let him realize it was his choice to be with her rather than you.
By allowing him to get away with this then you and Jessica are going to have problems. If he ever did leave her and you started seeing him she will definitely say it is all your fault that you 'stole' him off her. So you need to nip it in the bud asap!

Honey, if he wants to be with you he will dump the other girl and be with you.
Don't play second fiddle and pine away waiting for some guy to have the nerve to do what is right.
If you like him tell him and if he likes you back, tell him he needs to make a choice.

He wants you.

Stay on him and rip him out from under her.
And then hold on tight

If she has to do ripping and holding on tight, then she doesn't have him.
I would not give his ego the pleasure. If he wants you let him let her go and come after you.
You sound really young, don't get in the habit of acting an idiot over some boy.

If you have to play games or tear someone away from a current relationship then you will never have a healthy relationship. Both of you need to grow up and start acting more mature. He is dating someone else, if he really wants to be with you then he'll dump her. He wants to have his cake and eat it too, don't let him. As for you, forget him and move on, there are better guys out there, guys that will want to be with you and no one else.

Good Luck.

You better stay with him!!

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Originally Posted by khattiee08

you better stay with him!!!

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Stay with who? She's not with him.

Well one of jessica's best friends just told me that jessica is thinking about breaking up with dylan (and he knows it). And dylan says he is going to give me the best birthday present ever, he said he was going to get me "him".

So who knows what may happen

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Originally Posted by sunnyjo13

well one of jessica's best friends just told me that jessica is thinkin about breaking up with dylan (and he knows it). and dylan says he is gonna give me the best birthday present ever, he said he was gonna get me "him".

so who knows wat may happen

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Well just be careful. She is dumping him, he did not leave her for you. Make sure he is not doing this to make her mad. Becareful of being the rebound or the next one in line.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Well just be careful. She is dumping him, he did not leave her for you. Make sure he is not doing this to make her mad. Becareful of being the rebound or the next one in line.

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Thanks I will.
But do you think he could be doing this to get me mad?

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Originally Posted by sunnyjo13

Thanks i will.
But do you think he could be doin this to get me mad?

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Not to get you mad, but to make his ex mad. She may be dumping him, remember? I just hope he just does not mess around with you because he is free, but hoping she wll get mad and want him back.
Just be careful.

He is playing you both.

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Originally Posted by sunnyjo13

well one of jessica's best friends just told me that jessica is thinkin about breaking up with dylan (and he knows it). and dylan says he is gonna give me the best birthday present ever, he said he was gonna get me "him".

so who knows wat may happen

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just watch yourself, if he does that to Jessica - even though he says he likes you more - then he's perfectly capable of doing it to you too, but if you really have feelings for him and he has them for you then I say go for it.. you only live once, you won't know what it's like until you act on it.. just enter with caution.
good luck =]

To all you people who answered thanks, and after thinking about it, I came to a decision.
Im going to try to let go of my feelings for him. Im not giving up, just putting our friendship 1st.:)

Glad to hear it, great decision. Trust me, someone wonderful will come along, and he'll only want you and no one else.

Good decision.
I wish you the best