Ask Me Help Desk - Pregnant and a situation

my name is heather I am 17 I'm in a very tuff situation, I am pregnant by an older guy I love him and we've been talking about getting married but here's where it gets tuff my mom is trying to get him with stagatory rape, I'm wanting to get an emancipation but I don't know how to go about it.

my mom and her husband are convicted felons and have numerous charges ranging from aggrevated burglery, forgery, aggrevated assault, and evading arrest theft charges and many many more they both have been on propation and have been to jail, my home life is awefull, constant fighting yelling and threats to each other.

I am 17 hold a high school diploma and I am going to college as we speak.
I've had my job for 3 years
I pay for all my bills on my own

and if I wanted my boyfriends help he's more than willing to help me out, he makes around 500.00 a week and I make around 400.00 every two weeks

my moms husband jumped my boyfriend and assaulted him in the emergancy entrance at the hospital and then ran from the cops, I can't stand living with my parents I have ran away from home when I was 15 and the cops had to bring me home in handcuffs cause I refused to go home just like the night at the hospital when my boyfriend was jumped by my moms husband, my mom and her husband pretty much live in poverty and my boyfriends parents are way higher on the wealth chart here's an example my parents home is worth maybe 25,000.00 at the very most and his parents house is worth 140,000.00 easy I know the home value you doesn't mean much in cases but it's a better place to live and I am loved way more by his parents than my own.

I can't stand being near my mom or her husband they are not very good role models. I just want to be with my boyfriend and our baby I really need help cause my mom and her husband are unfit to be parents...

I honestly feel and believe that its in the best interest for me and my baby to get away from my mom and her husband as I don't feel safe or able to succeed with them in my life they will do me and my baby more harm than good please help me with any information...

I also I've in Bristol TN.

You'll just have to wait until you are 18 to get married and get away from your parents. I am sorry you are in such a non-loving home at the moment, but that will change shortly. How much longer until you are 18? It might be easier to wait until then versus trying to get emancipated from your parents. It could take probably the same amount of time and probably a lot less money and hassel from your parents. They could do like you said and charge your boyfriend with rape. Right now you are walking on very thin ice with them. Would suggest that you just keep your future plans a huge secret from them about marrying your boyfriend. I hope everything works out for you, my dear, as you deserve some happiness in your life.

Unfortunately you will have to wait for your 18th birthday you live in a state where the age of consent is 18.
I would keep things quiet and not make waves because they can very easily press charges on him.

Age of Consensual Sex in the USA

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Originally Posted by gonnabeamom

my name is heather i am 17 im in a very tuff situation, i am pregnant by an older guy i love him and weve been talking about getting married but heres where it gets tuff my mom is trying to get him with stagatory rape, im wanting to get an emancipation but i dont know how to go about it.

my mom and her husband are convicted felons and have numerous charges ranging from aggrevated burglery, forgery, aggrevated assault, and evading arrest theft charges and many many more they both have been on propation and have been to jail, my home life is awefull, constant fighting yelling and threats to eachother.

I am 17 hold a highschool diploma and i am going to college as we speak.
ive had my job for 3 years
i pay for all my bills on my own

and if i wanted my boyfriends help hes more than willing to help me out, he makes around 500.00 a week and i make around 400.00 every two weeks

my moms husband jumped my boyfriend and assualted him in the emergancy entrance at the hospital and then ran from the cops, i can't stand living with my parents i have ran away from home when i was 15 and the cops had to bring me home in handcuffs cause i refused to go home just like the night at the hospital when my boyfriend was jumped by my moms husband, my mom and her husband pretty much live in poverty and my boyfriends parents are way higher on the wealth chart heres an example my parents home is worth maybe 25,000.00 at the very most and his parents house is worth 140,000.00 easy i know the home value you dosent mean much in cases but its a better place to live and i am loved way more by his parents than my own.

i can't stand being near my mom or her husband they are not very good role models. i just want to be with my boyfriend and our baby i really need help cause my mom and her husband are unfit to be parents...

i honestly feel and believe that its in the best intrest for me and my baby to get away from my mom and her husband as i dont feel safe or able to succeed with them in my life they will do me and my baby more harm than good please help me with any information...

i also ive in Bristol TN.

I know from what you say your situation doesn't look good but here is the deal. When you do have the baby you will be emancipated. The person who got you pregnant is how old ? Maybe that's where they are concerned. You need to ask a lawyer that after your emancipated can you marry ? Either way once you are emancipated you can live elsewhere and the police can not drag you home because home is where you choose it to be. Right now the going to court type of emancipation may take longer then the pregnancy. If you truly feel your in danger at home then contact a shelter near you and see what they say. Be brutally honest and don't exaggerate in any way and they may even be able to help you. If your Father is on probation then beating someone up is a crime and he can / should be sent back. It's a tough situation.

Tennessee does not allow anybody to be emancipated.

Look at this site and call for more information: Contact our Pregnancy Consultants at 800-395-HELP

Also, Tennessee Right to Life: Tennessee Right to Life - Contact Us (United Against Abortion, Infanticide, Euthanasia, Human Cloning and Fetal Tissue Research.)

Tell them your situation and ask whether they can help or refer you to someone who can help you. Explain to them that you intend to keep your baby, but you are looking for a safe, legal way to get to that point.

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

Tennessee does not allow anybody to be emancipated.

This is not necessarily so. Living in Tenn, I have a friend who's son was emancipated at 15 because he had a child.

Hun, have you considered contacting Department of Child Services? While you may have to live in a foster home, it may be better than where you are now.

Every site I looked up said Tennessee does not have an emancipation statute and does not allow it.
I wonder if they have some other option that results in the same thing.

I'm not sure, but her ex hubby got to stop paying child support because the son was "emancipated" and he was able to get a job and an apartment for himself, the girlfriend and the baby. This was not too far from Bristol actually.

I would guess that maybe Child protective services can maybe over ride the regular law when they see fit?
I have seen them wrongfully over ride many laws so I bet they could with that.

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Originally Posted by J_9

Hun, have you considered contacting Department of Child Services? While you may have to live in a foster home, it may be better than where you are now.

Exactly! You should also apply for general assistance... apply for EVERYTHING! You will be able to get ADC and Medicaid services, WIC and all that other good stuff. They will also be able to help you with locating a shelter (or other facility or home) and getting some protection for yourself and your baby. From your description, you should not be in that household.

As previously posted, make sure you report what is going on exactly as it is without exaggeration. Unfortunately, you have to be the adult in your family. Law enforcement may get involved again, especially if mom's husband assaulted your boyfriend and is on probation and there is anything else questionable going on. And if they do and your mom & her husband get into trouble, so be it. You need to concentrate on you and your baby first and foremost.

I hope the best for you!

Yes Tennessee does have emancipation laws and this might be something for you to check out when you have time.

State

If there were no emancipation upon having a child then by default the child isn't under the control of the minor parent but under the will and control of the supervising parent. With emancipation that releases the supervising parent ( mom & dad - Gma & gdad to child ) and creates emancipation for the minor thereby allowing them to have control over their newborn child.

Either way its never an easy spot when kids start having kids.

Well I am glad she will be able to do that.
I don't know why all the sites I looked up said they can't be.