I am 21 years old and my husband is 27 we have 1 child together... i feel like our marriage is slowly drifting apart we argue a lot i could really care less if we have sex or if we talk to each other or if we even slept in the same house is it me or is our relationship headed for divorce need help and someone to talk to!! :confused: :confused: :confused:

First of all, please do not write in all caps.

I think it's time to seek marriage counselling, but it sounds like you have already given up on this marriage. What do you argue about? Are there other problems that are keeping you apart?

Being married is a full time job and commitment, it takes two people to make it work and two people to make it fail. Talk to him, after all he is your husband, your partner and you have to work through this together. Discuss the possibility of seeing a marriage counsellor. Don't give up yet, you entered into this and you owe it to yourself, your husband and your child to try everything to make it work.

Good Luck.

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WE ARGUE A lot

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About what, and how long have been married? How long have you known each other? Why did you get married? How old is the child? Who works in the house?

We argue about everything money cars the baby who by the way is a little over 1 we have been married for 3 years known each other for 5 we both have jobs and I feel like I have 3 between working taking care of the baby and cleaning and we argue over a lot of stuff I feel like I'm the only one working on the relationship

It will be over unless you seek counseling! You need, you both need, to talk to a marriage counselor.

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Originally Posted by huntersmomma

we argue about everything money cars the baby who by the way is a lil over 1 we have been married for 3 years known each other for 5 we both have jobs and i feel like i have 3 between working taking care of the baby and cleaning and we argue over alot of stuff i feel like im the only one working on the relationship

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Your working hard true, but not together, and where is the honest communication? I think like all young couples there is conflict because of how the responsibilities are shared, that's normal, especially when both partners work. Talk to each other and define the boundaries, and the chores between you. The best time to talk is when you both are relaxed and open, and comfortable, and don't nag or demand, but discuss. If that bears no fruit (one conversation seldom solves the issue) then pick something you think is fair, and stop doing it. Washing his clothes for example. And above all manage your time better, to get your own breaks. A time you can relax, and let your hair down. It's honestly, to early to give up, just because its hard. There is still MUCH for you both to learn about each other, and yourselves, so hang in and be proactive in learning and establishing, good honest communications with each other. Good Luck.

Marriage is a two way street. BUT some marriages one person gives and gives and gives until they can't give any more. What kind of a life do you envision for yourself if not with your present husband?