hi, I'm a sister of 3 and my mum is 40 and she's bin with her partner for 7/8 years now. They have started arguing a lot latley and my mums back on the drink again. She is trying to stop but some how to me it don't feel good enough, he treats her like , and he sits in the room all day playing Xbox he has put things round the house to hear what we are saying about him because he knows that me and my siblings don't like him. My mum even takes his dinner up to him and she is convinsed that he is having a internet affair. When she talks to me about leavng him she's worried about losing verything, because he is the on who works,and she takes care of his two kids aswel as me and my older brother who is no nearly 20. All the kids are close with eachover and we all know what a idiot he can be, but every time my mum talks about braking up she allways brings up money or the kids.. what would she do if he left and took the kids, she's become so atttached to the kids she doesn't want to lose them.. x has any body got a simuler situation or advise?

How does he work and play the xbox all day? Why does your mum bring dinner to him, he is isolating himself? Yet working and playing the x box all day?

Honestly it has nothing to do with you and your sisters. It is your mums decision and decision alone. She needs to stop getting you guys involved and she needs to realize that if she wants change it is up to her to stop talking about it and actually do it.

Money is not everything. Oh, and what exactly is an internet affair, is he not there all the time?

It is good that the kids are close to each other but these changes are not up to you to make but it is in your mums hands.

Let your mom handle her own business at this time, but let her know of your love and support, whatever she does.

I agree with the others. This is your moms problem and she needs to solve it. Right now it appears she just wants to vent but make no permanent changes.

I agree with everyone, it's your moms problem!