My girlfriend has recently been ignoring all my attempts in contacting her until I finally heard from her and the reason for her ignoring me was that she had lost a close relative.
I found this hard to digest as I felt if she had told me earlier it would have stopped me thinking that she is trying to convey that myself and her had come to an end.
Now I've never lost anyone close to me so I have no idea what she is going through and she refuses to tell me anymore information and I've come to respect that now.
I went to see her at work and gave her a teddy bear and a card to show that I'm there for her and that I was sorry for not being supportative and asked the rather silly questions "are we still a couple" and the reply I received was "yes at the moment"
My heart sank soon realising what she had said, I don't know if I am reading too much into the situation or not so any advice would be greeted with thanks,

Thanks for reading and I hope its clear to understand

Your girlfriend now is going to be up and down... Its very hard when you have a loss in your family and we all Grieve different.

What you need to do right now is show your girlfriend that you love her and will stand by her, you can also tell her that when she is ready to talk you will be there as this will help her no end. Stop thinking about your feelings now, how would you feel if you lost a close person in your family?? Bingo that's the way she is feeling right now...

I think at this time you are reading too much into it, she needs to Grieve before her head is straight, if she finds it hard to deal with the feelings get her to go see her local doctor for some help.

Hope all things work out for you both, Welcome to the forum.

How long was she out of contact? This all sounds a little strange. And who was the close relative? An aunt? Uncle? Cousin? Did you know this person? How long have you been together?
If we have more information it might be a little clearer. Grief affects everybody differently, but generally you reach out to those around you, not disappear totally. See if you can paint the picture a little more clearly.
Also - why were you apologising for not being supportive if you didn't know about the death in the first place? Sorry for all the questions, I know you're looking for some answers, but I just want to have a clearer picture in my head.

We've been together for around 3 months and are on the phone to each other everyday for at least 3 hours and text throughout the day.
To paint a better picture.
Sunday I was meant to be seeing her however I had been out the night before and I woke up realising I might have rang her I checked my phone for records and I was unsure as I had deleted the records.
I rang her and as soon as I said "hey" the phone went dead, I immediately rang her back no answer and received a text "no reception" which I accepted and so I left it for an hour before ringing her again, an hour passed and she would not pick up her phone again received a text message but saying "i'm not in the mood for talking to anyone ring me tomorrow".
I was very concerned as she has never been like this so I sent numerous texts asking what was wrong, I got no reply so I thought just leave it for a day.

Monday again she wouldn't answer until the evening when I received several messages one in particular stood out to me as being rather odd,
"Have you told any for your mates that you love me?
I replied but I found that message rather odd, however she still wouldn't answer the phone and I was losing my patience.

Tuesday, I eventually had lost my head I was worried and confused as to why my girl was ignoring me and avoiding me.
She sent a message saying why was I bothering she was obviously a horrible person and soon after she sent the message "a close relative of mine had died and the body couldn't be recovered"
Now I was rock bottom, and even more confused to why she couldn't say all this ealier.

Wednesday, I gave her space and didn't contact her at all and she didn't contact me.

Thursday, I knew she was at work so I gave her the teddy bear and card mentioned above and thats when she responed "yes at the moment" to my question.

As for me apologising it was because she felt I was being intrusive and not giving her space.

Hope that clears everything up

Give her time and a lot of love,just be there as she's at a lowpoint right now.I hope your insecurity and selfishness didn't mess you up with this girl to bad so good luck,put her feelings first and be her rock!

OK you need to give a lot of space and try not to irritate the hell out of her but at the same time be there for her... to be honest it sounds like she is getting ready to leave you and may be seeing someone else which is why she has not contacted you... be careful... and don't be surprised if she has found someone else... just don't smother her because that will only push her further away... women hate clingyness...