I'm married for almost 16 years already. My husband and I have gone through a tumultuous path for the past 5 years. The infidelities and betrayals we've gone through are already making us used to the pain. We know our marriage is already unhealthy. We're trying so hard to save the marriage for the sake of our three beautiful girls, but each time we try, we fail. We tried to consider divorce, but we ended up kissing and making up. The problem is, after a certain period, we revive the same hurt and recall the wound of the past. I know our road right now seems so bleak and uncertain. I also know that there is still love left within us. How can we rekindle the long-lost flame?

Seek the help of a professional counceller. This is often the only way to deal with the issues in your pasts.

Yes, first it is great you are trying, but often first you have to remember that the hurt and pain does not go away by some magic. We have to change each of us some and do thing differently for things to start to change.

The biggest thing is you have to try and get over the past, a failure last year is last year and you have to look for the good of today.

I would suggest a good marriage couselor