Ok me and my girlfriend will have benn dating for 7months on the 10th. We love each other very much but in Feb she moved. It was OK for a little bit, but then I found out she liked another guy. I confronted her about it and she didn't deny it. She said she does like him as a little more than a friend but she loves me and wants to keep our relationship going. I love her and don't want to break up but I'm half and half like maybe we should because she likes another and guy but we shouldn't because I love her so much and still want to be with her and she says she still wants me. What should I do about this?? Would having sex show her how much I love her and still want to be with her?? She says She is probably just latchin on to him because I'm not there. When she comes down here in 27 days I hope this will all change for the better. Would that be the right time to have sex??

First of all how old are you? Secondly, having sex doesn't show that you care about someone or love someone, it is something people in a committed loving relationship do when they are mature enough to handle the consequences, i.e. pregnancy.

How far apart do you two live from one another? She's obviously confused, but she's not ready to let go of you yet. I'd confront her and ask her if she wants to continue a relationship with you or if she wants to go after someone else. Be honest about how you feel and don't jump into sex, that's the worst thing you can do.

Take care.

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

First of all how old are you? Secondly, having sex doesn't show that you care about someone or love someone, it is something people in a committed loving relationship do when they are mature enough to handle the consequences, i.e. pregnancy.

How far apart do you two live from one another? She's obviously confused, but she's not ready to let go of you yet. I'd confront her and ask her if she wants to continue a relationship with you or if she wants to go after someone else. Be honest about how you feel and don't jump into sex, that's the worst thing you can do.

Take care.

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We live 6hrs apart, I'm a freshman and she's a junior. I thought sex did show you cared, isn't that why its called making love?? She says she still wants me and is going to try to stop liking this boy but I don't know how you can just stop liking some one. She thinks maybe she is just latching on to him because I'm not there to be with her.

Not being there with her and having sex with her are two different things. Yes, it is making love, and yes, it is a way to show your love for someone, but not until you are in a committed loving relationship, and not until you are old enough to face the consequences of your actions. Even with protection, there is a chance that she could get pregnant, are you emotionally and financially ready to be a father? There are also STD's to worry about, and once again there is no protection that is 100% safe, the only thing that is is abstinence.

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Not being there with her and having sex with her are two different things. Yes, it is making love, and yes, it is a way to show your love for someone, but not until you are in a committed loving relationship, and not until you are old enough to face the consequences of your actions. Even with protection, there is a chance that she could get pregnant, are you emotionally and financially ready to be a father? There are also STD's to worry about, and once again there is no protection that is 100% safe, the only thing that is is abstinence.

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Thanks you've really helped a lot

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Ok me and my girlfriend will have benn dating for 7months on the 10th. We love each other very much but in Feb she moved. It was ok for a little bit, but then i found out she liked another guy. I confronted her about it and she didn't deny it. She said she does like him as a little more than a friend but she loves me and wants to keep our relationship goin. I love her and dont wanna break up but i'm half and half like maybe we should because she likes another and guy but we shouldn't because I love her so much and still wanna be with her and she says she still wants me. What should I do about this??? Would having sex show her how much I love her and still wanna be with her??? She says She is probably just latchin on to him because I'm not there. When she comes down here in 27 days I hope this will all change for the better. Would that be the right time to have sex???

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SEX NEVER solves anything. In fact sex brings so many emotions out in us that you will probably feel worse afterwards. Look, if she is interested in another guy then let HIM have her. People who are in love don't do that. It is better to know now. You are worthy of love remember that, besides loving someone that is not committed to you... is not worth your love.

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SEX NEVER solves anything. In fact sex brings so many emotions out in us that you will probably feel worse afterwards. Look, if she is interested in another guy then let HIM have her. People who are in love don't do that. It is better to know now. You are worthy of love remember that, besides loving someone that is not committed to you....is not worth your love.

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But she says she still loves me and only wants me and hates that she likes him and that maybe she is just latching on to him because I'm not there

You're a 15 year old horny guy, with a lot of inexperience in the ways of a female, so your insecure, and get jealous very easily. Don't mistake being horny with love, as they are two different things, and don't think your g/f is any different, as she has feelings, and insecurities too, as you do, and your both young, and are finding out how complicated life is, so for those reasons get a lot more info about love, and sex, so it doesn't cause problems later, like in making babies. From your other posts, your g/f is older than you, and may know more so, be careful believing everything she tells you, as she can tell you anything, and how would you know better? Best be careful, and look before you leap, and get your feelings really hurt, by not knowing what your doing. Think with the big head, not the little one.