My wife thinks that there is no way I could prove she is an unresponsible mother, and that there is no way the court would say that she is unfit. Meanwhile she sleeps over her new lovers house every night for the last month and a half. MOn-fri I work from 530am to 130pm and leave my two girls with their older sister (18yr) who just happens to be the mothers daughter. My estrange wife comes to the house by 7am prepares breakfast for them and sees them to the school bus. Then she leaves the house and goes to work. I get home by 3pm and am with my girls to take care all of their needs from then on. Including house work which my wife has also abandoned ,home work cooking etc. My wife comes to the house at night to say goodnight to the girls and then she leaves until the next morning. Friday nights Saturday nights She is not around either. An occasional Sunday maybe. She says she could get a character letter from people who know her if she needed to. I want full custody of my kids and don't what this woman making important decisions for my kids. How can I prove my case to the judge. I have been keeping a daily log since march 11 of this year.

You need a private investigator to do the leg work, to find out where she is going, who owns or rents the place, and try to find out what is going on. Your logs are important, but you need to close the circle.

Your wife isn't irresponsible. With the way you've accounted the details of how she manages to visit your kids, cook and prepare them for school, all those stuff, would imply that she has never forgotten her duties as a mom. I may sound bias because I'm a woman too.

So she watches them get dressed and throwes a waffle in the toaster... Big Deal... That does not make a Mom. What is she teaching her daughters ?
Mike

I'm not too sure if it's exactly "irresponsible"... She seems to be caring for the kids too, but you're carrying more of the burden because you spend more time with them and also do the housework. It's difficult to argue for either her case or yours because your schedules seem to be based on when the two of you work and when you are finally available to your kids.

Although she isn't doing much, she isn't leaving the children alone, or putting them in danger. The information you are gathering might get you residential custody of the children, but short of the mother being in legal troubles such as abuse, neglect, or drug addiction, it will be hard to have her considered an unfit parent, despite the fact that she isn't meeting the standards you (and most people) might prefer.