Hay there, 18 year old here, I just need advice really. Basically me and my girlfriend have been going out just under a year, it was going all cool but then we started to drift abit, whenever she came round to my house I would always go on the PC and almost ignore her. She had become abit selfish but now looking back I don't really care about that. Now about a week ago she went to this boys party and did not tell me, I became raged and upset and it turned into a massive row. She said some stuff and I said some stuff we both did not mean. Now she wants some space, well since I have given her space and we talk on msn, like normal and it is all cool. Well yesterday she phoned me up and we had a chat, once the conversation had turned to us she keeped saying some stuff about breaking up, like if we would still be friends and would I talk to her. The last thing I want to do is split up with her.

I know I ruined it, I was not trusting the one I love, I was scared that she would find someone better then me, I begain to suspect that she would go off with other boys. I now know better that she would not have done something like that but have I left it to late?

How can I prove to her that I need her as my girfriend, I need her in my life.

All you can do is tell her you were wrong for thinking she was selfish and you realize your time with her was more valuable than you realized and it would mean everything to you if she would give you another chance so that she could see that you truly want to make it up to her.

If she is only talking about breaking up, she may be tired of whatever your doing, so I suggest you pay a lot more attention to her. If your chosing being on a computer, instead of being with her, I can understand she may feel less than special, or not so important in your life, so that kind of behavior must stop immediately. You are really unclear in your posts of the status of this relationship, so if you could clarify a little it would help.

Well right now we are on sort of a semi break, I have not seen her in person for a few days but we talk over the phone, we text and we talk on msn.

I know being on the PC was stupid and know looking back I mucked up. I am willing to change and I love her enough to chuck to chuck the stupid PC out the window.

I understand how it was all my fault. Oh to add, now she is going out with her mates the past few days and I am worried she will enjoy life with out me, and forget about me almost.

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I understand how it was all my fault. Oh to add, now she is going out with her mates the past few days and I am worried she will enjoy life with out me, and forget about me almost.

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That's your insecurity talking to you. Cut that out. If your still talking, then talk about things that shows your ready to grow up, and pay attention to her, and are willing to work together to solve your issues. That doesn't mean be her puppy, or butler, but after this all time, you should know her well enough to know, what she wants, and needs, and how best to fulfill them. Remember how you were at first meeting? Look back on what has changed, and get a plan, MAN. You may be able to correct your actions, and relight the interest, she once had. If not, That semi break becomes permanent.