All my life I've been ether bulled, lonely and miserble when I was younger I was sexually abused by my friend dad and I didn't tell anyone about it not even my parents so I've grew up for the past 10 years holding that secreat and I don't feel comfonted around boys they were rather taken by other girls or just like me as a friend now that I met simon a worker in bar me we met last September and he was my date for my mums wedding and we both liked each other but I wanted a releship and he didn't and then after a while he changed for a bit kept talking about me to the bar staff saying stuff then my mum talked to him and he started been flirty again and he told a doorman he likes me and he meant to spread a rumour about me and after that I feel I worth nothing and fat and won't get anyone so please help me what's the best revenge and how do I stop feeling like this:mad: :confused: :(

I can promise you that you will find no peace in any relationship until you deal with the sexual abuse with a professional. This is a serious mental condition you have, and you may not fully realize the depth of how it permeates your every relationship.

Professionals know how to help you process this and put it behind you. You can't do it on your own, it's just impossible. We can't coach you out of it here, either.

I hope you will swallow your pride enough to seek out some help on this issue.

Once you've got that in process, dealing with situations like the bar-guy here in your story will be much simpler and productive.

First you need to get with a professional and deal with the pain from the abuse years ago. You can not keep this in, and need to learn not to judge others by what someone else did.

Will there always be jerks, of course and then we can also say that if you go to bars you will get drunks and those who like to hand out in bars,