Hello, to whom it may concern my name is sam. I am 21 years old and I just don't get it. I had been with my ex for 2 odd some reasons, and then I broke up with her. I found out that she found someone right away. I felt happy inside for her at that time. Finally I found the love of my live who loves me to this day. My current girlfriend lives in va a problem, but I was planning to finish college then going after her. In the meantime I was out and about it when my ex called me.. in 2007 and told me her boyfriend broke up with her. I felt bad so I told her to visit me... I talked with her over and over I'm not in love with you "im sorry" as I said. She caught that quick. Then she started to drink some worries away when one thing lead to another and little bit of coke and rum.. we did it. I didn't wear protection, my excuse too drunk her drunk couldn't drive to the store. Anyhow, she got back with her boyfriend the next day. I felt like I cheated myself with my online girlfriend, and I felt bad which I couldn't bare the thought. I still regret that night. She calls me 2 weeks after we did it crying that she was pregnant. I said it can't be mine. I know I pulled out. "some people did warn me about premature ejac". I now how to go through depression. I don't know if it is his for sure. She never called me back. I got so paranoid I called her plenty of times, and even her grandparents like a fool. I just found out her boyfriend just died, which I'm so sorry for her and his family. I just don't know what to do. My online girlfriend loves me so much she is ready to see me when she done with school. I can't tell her I made this mistake or I don't even kknow its mine. I can't think straight anymore it is effecting my studies, my life my relationships with my girlfriend. What should I do? Please help me...

First things first... calm down. If your online girlfriend really loves you she will understand... and even if she doesn't the truth is she deserves to know. As for the ex who is pregnant. There is a blood test that they can do at the hospital to find out exactly what day she conceived the baby. I should know I did it when I got pregnant. I cost about $250 but it was well worth it. Get the test first then break the news to your girlfriend. No reason adding more drama to an already complicated situation. Hope I helped. Let me know how it goes.

Calm down. God does not give u more than u can handle. U should get that test then decice whether to tell your online girlfriend. Hope all goes well

I agree with the others see if the test says you are the father or not and then take it from there.
Also you should avoid spending any time with this girl because you might just end up saying '
''.. we did it.'' again. You say... got drunk and that is your excuse but you also say that is your excuse for ''not going to the store'' which means to me that if you would consider going to the store and still being in the mood to do that then it meant more to you than just a mistake because you were drunk. If you had taken the time to go to the store and STILL wanted to... ''do it.'' There is much more to your feelings for her than you are willing to admit to yourself or you just don't have enough self control.

Take the test if the baby is yours you need to pay child support.
It seems like you don't have a choice since they want to 'hang you' anyway.
So it is your only out ---IF it proves you are not the father!

Bite down and "fix" the problem... you know what I mean.

WOW YES!! It wasn't fine... I been so happy... for 6 months now... I found out in August that I wasn't even mine... thank you so much everyone... im never doing that again... I love all of you for helping me last year when I was about to kill myself... thank you jesus...

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Originally Posted by butterfly2

First things first.....calm down. If your online girlfriend really loves you she will understand....and even if she doesnt the truth is she deserves to know. As for the ex who is pregnant. There is a blood test that they can do at the hospital to find out exactly what day she conceived the baby. I should know I did it when I got pregnant. I cost about $250 but it was well worth it. Get the test first then break the news to your gf. No reason adding more drama to an already complicated situation. Hope I helped. Let me know how it goes.

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Baby wasn't mine yay...

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Originally Posted by sleepinbeauty

calm down. God does not give u more than u can handle. u should get that test then decice whether or not to tell your online girlfriend. hope all goes well

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Baby wasn't mine!! I feel much better..

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

I agree with the others see if the test says you are the father or not and then take it from there.
Also you should avoid spending any time with this girl because you might just end up saying '
''..we did it.'' again. You say... got drunk and that is your excuse but you also say that is your excuse for ''not going to the store'' which means to me that if you would consider going to the store and still being in the mood to do that then it meant more to you than just a mistake because you were drunk. If you had taken the time to go to the store and STILL wanted to ....''do it.'' There is much more to your feelings for her than you are willing to admit to yourself or you just don't have enough self control.

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Baby wasn't mine!! Lol thank you

Hey everyone!! I got good news... it wasn't mine.. . and if you want to find out what has happened between these 6 months that I haven't answered yet... please send me a message... so I can give you total update...

p.s god is love.

Online girlfriends, its better in person boy! Its not a good thing to be in Love tapping on Keyboard & Sliding your mouse & watching some monitor, Go to your ex :| its what I think

Go where your heart tells u to go

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Originally Posted by SamNeedsHelp

WOW YES!!!!!!!!!!!!! it wasn't fine.......i been so happy.....for 6 months now........i found out in august that i wasn't even mine..........thank you so much everyone.......im never doing that again....................i love all of you for helping me last year when i was about to kill myself...thank you jesus...

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I AM so happy for you. :) No more worries. Lol

Don't make the samemistake again. USe a form of birth controland act responsibly. Think of this as a mistake that you make once turned into a learning opportunity.

By the way, pulling out is NOT SAFE. You can still impregnate someone, and also catch STI's. Wear a condom. Always have themwith you so you don't get into this pickle again