I just found out my g/f has a kid and don't know what to do
I just started college and my g/f is a jr. in hs. We had been together for a long time and had split up for a few months and had been talking about getting back together. We split up because I felt like she was lying about her work schedule, she always seemed to be working and never had an explanation for why she had no money. However now that we've started talking again she has admitted has a kid and just didn't know how to tell me. Her kid is living at a relatives for now since she is in school. The main reason she didn't want to talk about it was because she had been raped a few years ago(which she had told me about) and that they didn't find out she was pregnant until it was late in the pregnancy and she thought once she told me I would leave her. That would explain why she worked so much and besides that it was perfect.
We really haven't discussed this any further, as I just found the other day. My problem is that I was getting ready to transfer to a vet. School which is about a 5 hour drive from our current town. I had always hoped that she would be able to start schooling up there and would be ready to graduate about the same time I am and that we would be able to start our lives then.
Now that is pretty much impossible. I don't want to leave her, but I don't think at this point being so far from finishing college that I can commit to a relationship involving a kid. And most importantly I don't want to make it seem like I am making her chose between me and a kid she didn't ask for considering the kid is 3 now.
Is there any good way to approach this situation?