there's this guy that I'm really in love with, he my ex, I broke up with him. Lately he's been telling me that he loves me a lot as a sister but yet he has me sit on his lap and we will talk about the most retarded things. When I'm with him like on his lap he's always kissing me on the cheek or randomly biting me and saying he's a biter. When its time for me to leave he will give me the biggest hugs ever he holds me tight and doesn't let go for like 5 minutes. But yet other times ill see him and he will look depressed and ignore me so I'm just confused about the way he feels about me. And now were lyk relly relly good friends and we hang out all the time but I want to go out with him again so much

I little confused about this relationship, can you be little more clearer

You sound like you're about 14 years old? Is that close?

You broke up with him and then hang out on his lap and let him kiss/bite/hug on you? Then you have no idea what being gf/bf means, breaking up means, or any of that.

Right now you know EXACTLY how he feels. He likes you. Does he get depressed and aloof sometimes? Sure! Does he still like you? Of course!

The only problem right now is you, not him. He hasn't changed at all. You broke up with him but never changed your relationship back to hands-off friendship. So as far as he's concerned, you two are still an item.

You need to stop sending mixed signals. If you want to be with him, then you are because he still likes you. Say it out loud and end this dumb mind-flopping you're doing. Waste of energy.

And next time you break up with someone, that includes your laps... and your necks... and even hugs if need be.

Well I'm not 14... and he told me the only reason he asked me out in the first place waz because he was using me as a rebound. And HE pulls me down onto HIS lap but yet I can tell that he still has feelings for his ex and so I don't no how he feels about me

How old are you?

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and HE pulls me down onto HIS lap but yet I can tell that he still has feelings for his ex and so I don't no how he feels about me

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He likes you as a sister, that's what you said. What's confusing about that, and why do you let him pull you into his lap. I think it's the touchy, feely nature of the way he treats you, that has you confused. That, and a regret for the break up. Its you that should be setting boundaries, not him.

I am 22

At 22 I had not problem keeping my balance and staying off people's laps... unless of course that's where I wanted to end up.

Simply reiterated, he likes you just fine. Enough to fiddle around with you, but not enough to swear fidelity and all that goes with that.

As long as your fine with that relationship, you're good to go.

I have such a hard time believing that you're 22... and that your spelling/grammar hasn't improved in all those years.

Also, at 22, you should have the maturity to know what's going on in a relationship. As JBeaucaire claimed up top, why not just ask him to be with you again?

Quit playing mind games (him too) and try to carry out a mature relationship that includes communication.

He obviously still likes you. You need to have a serious talk with him. Tell him to stop playing these games and tell you what he wants. You need to tell him you don't appreciate guys lying and playing stupid games. Just have him tell you what he wants and take it from there. And even though he says you're just a "rebound" gf, that doesn't automatically determine what you can become. And in the meantime, don't let him "pull" you onto his lap or bite you! You're letting him walk all over you!

I don't know what the conditions were when you broke up with him.. But to dump a guy and then suggest you love him and want to get back with him - kind of sounds a little dodgy.
I think the question you should ask yourself isn't what he feels about you, its what you feel about him.
Replay the reasons of why you broke up in the first place.. First of all you need to ask yourself if you're sure that this is what you want and it won't lead down the same path again. Maybe you find him more desirable because you don't have him - that's not reason enough to go back.

I think once a relationship ends once it's inevitable that it will end again if the couple choose to try once more. I wish it wasn't the case but every time I see it happen it's the sad truth.