Hi my name is leo and I'm 17 years old me and my girlfreind have been dating for about 3 months and I'm truly in love with her but theirs one problem when we try to have intercousre I get hard for a little while den it goes back to normale why is this I mean when we are kissing and she is touching me I get hard but when we try to have intercousre it doesn't get hard I feel really embarrassed when this happins I don't no what to do I want to show my girl that I can do this but its not working for me can anyone help?

Sounds to me like your not ready. Maybe you need to back off and when your older and ready for this type of a realationship there will not be this type of a problem.

But do you think it's a mental problem because when I masterbate everything goes well but when it comes to sex it doesn't go to good

Yes, your probably scared of getting to close to her and getting hurt or you are afraid of getting her pregnant or maybe of getting walked in on. I'm pretty sure that it is mental and not physical. Wait, you have your whole life ahead of you.

First time?

Yes first time I mean I'm not worried about none of that stuff I just want to have sex but its just not working for me

Performance anxiety. Does your female know its your first time?

Performance Anxiety,

Check out this sight and see if it helps, how old are you both?

Tal he is 17, he did not post how old she is.

Yeah she does

How old is she?

Sometimes sex for the first time can be a very nervous experience and you may find that your erection ceases purely because of nerves. It may be that you just need to get used to being naked around each other more and explore each others bodies.

If it continues, use viagra. The biggest users of viagra are under 25 now. You may only need it the first time until your nerves go.

Hope this helps,
Louis.

She is 16 and yea louis that's what I was thinking that maybe I just need a boost but don't you have to be a certain age for viagra

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Originally Posted by leo1230

she is 16 and yea louis thats what i was thinking that maybe i just need a boost but dont you have to be a certain age for viagra

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You aren't going to like what I tell you, but Viagra is prescription only, for adults, and I doubt you qualify, and I doubt that's your problem any way. Your mind is not ready for sex, and I doubt if anyone will give you advice to have sex with a 16 year old, had they known all the facts. Neither of you knows what your doing, so its not going to work, so I strongly suggest you learn more about yourself, your partner, and what your trying to accomplish, and the best safest way to proceed, before you start acting like adults and doing adult things.

If you are on medication, if you are depressed or if you are drinking or doing drugs, these all factor in.

You may also not be ready.

I say talk to your doctor.

This is pretty much normal for the first time. It happens even if you think your having a good time and everything is going well then boom. Your like huh :)

First off takes a lot of guts talking about this. And if your girlfirend loves you. You guys will both work at it till you get it right.

Let her know its her fault and just talk about it and try and find the best way around this. Try 4 play a lot more and a bit of sex then go back to 4 play a bit. Back and forth this will make you feel more at ease.

Hope this helps bud :)

Regards

''let her know its her fault '' is bad advice... don't use those words.ever.especially if she's sixteen,she might believe that there's something wrong with her,like she's not appealing enough

Listen champ its happen to me. I think it might of happen to every guy at some point. Whether too much whiskey or nerves. I know one time there was this girl that I wanted to have the best sex with. I wanted her to know that I did my everything to impress her well wouldn't you know it when it came time to do the deed, my pen was empty. Its nerves. Don't force it . I know you're a guy and your hormones are probably going nutz. This might be a little adultish or mature to hear, but wait for it to feel right, and you are thinking about it way too much . And possibly when you are erect I bet you flex it which can make it go down if it is not fully erect. I suggest running which will help in your circulation and blood flow.. Or better yet don't have sex till your old enough to handle the responsibility that comes with sex ( i.e. KIDS) (stds, aids) your 17 with a long life ahead of you, don't ruin it for what will be most likely 5 minutes of fun fory our first time.

Yeah sorry guys for the typ come couldn't you see by the way I was typing? I was trying to help out got to check more on my posts

God I miss out one bloody word. Its NOT HER FAULT! But yeah sure keep on giving me bad rep lol

Wouldn't mind if I meant it but just for a typ O

Uff :)