I was actually inspired by another post after reading it on here.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ak-187029.html

that link. But here's my story in which I posted on the second page of that one.


all right man. I feel you on this one. Your story hit me hard. I'm going through the
same thing except a few different things. For one were both eighteen. And
we live over 200 miles away from one another. That it self has a hard impact on us.
we've been dating on and off for about a year and a half. We have random stupid
fights when were away from each other. But when we are with each other its all
about each other. If that makes since. Lately its getting harder and harder from the
most outrageous things I've never herd her say such as leave me alone I'm tired.
her never wanting to talk on the phone much anymore just texts and computer
mostly texting. Which I don't mind but you can't have a relationship and not talk I
don't care who you are. I've even said that to her. Basically its night time. When she's
tired I know, cranky, a different side comes out. A side that I donut like she acts totally
different one day and the next its like this isn't the girl I'm in love with. She's brought up
the fact that she doesn't have time for a relationship. About a month ago this happened.
I said something along the lines, how do you not have time, there's more than enough time,
if you wanted to be, "us" you can make time, just like before nothings changed. Ended up
both of us to tears, on the phone. After arguing for an hour then its where the girl I'm in
love with comes out, the sweet I love you side. We made up said I'm sorry I really want to
be with you I love you ill work on it etc. no matter how many times everything
seems so perfect one day but the next she totally flips out. It scares the crap out of me
sometimes because I never know what she's going to say. Like I said when we are with
each other its amazing I feel it, I see it, I hear it, her eyes, her voice, her actions along
with mine prove I love you, I need you, I want you, I'm in love with you, but then there's
always something to bring me down, some dumb fight, just calling to say goodnight
turns into an hour fight. And he being tired, cranky, whatever you want to call it brings
out that side, the all I hear is blah blah blah, just leave me alone, I want to go to sleep.
just little hurtful things like that, that get me. Any help and another story to read but
nothing to be mistaken for some immature relationship because its not that at all. This
is a short and sweet summary overall of this. Anything is much appreciated. Thanks!

Give the girl some space, and back off when you know she is tired. It makes no sense to argue over a goodnight when you really can skip it, knowing she is sleeping. A lot of this seems like your pushing at the wrong time, and don't know how to let it go. Try being less, and see if it helps.

Thank you. I'll work on that.

Anyone else have any insight on this?

Oh man, I was that girl once.. I used to tell my first love that I can't hang around him at the moment or I need to be by myself. Personally, I wouldn't take it personal.. mine did and it ended up with us just always fighting. I wish my love would be back with me but he's afraid of various reasons.. one being the idea that when I'm stressed I say mean awful things that I don't mean at all. Just let her do what she needs to do.. I promise its stress especially on girls. If she loves you, then she loves you.. there will always be hurts and things said but it has to come to the point where how much can you handle. I personally wouldn't worry about it.. let go in one ear and out the other. You'll be okay. I promise.

You are just 18.learn how not to get into an argument,you should know what way the phone conversation is going ,when to back off etc etc. But this may be your first love but remember it won't b your last love. Your young enjoy life

Thanks lilwhitegirl116

That's what I needed.
To hear it from another girl
On why and what's going on.

Anyone else can elaborate.
Girls too, your what helps the most.
Thank you all.

Anyone else?

Sorry Player but... She is not into you as much as you are into her. Never be on call to anyone, OK? People will loose respect for you when they see you are willing to beg & plea for attention. This type of situation (relationship--if you want to call it one), is allowing her to use you at will. I agree to give her space. Maybe the timing is off or like I said...

Thank you everyone so far for your reply.

Anyone else a top contributor or someone who's
Been or is in the same situation?