Ok here's my situation I've ran it over inmy head a million times and I just need some clarification I live in a state abou 6 hours from this girl I like she has a boyfriend but she's been taking "breaks" from him and I understand that I really have no chance with this girl I know she likes me but were 4 yrs apart (not te biggest deal) and she lives in another state. I've visited her we met up halfway between once and we stayed at a hotel as friends she went home and waited 2 weeks or so and she's dating her ex again.

What do I do we have a mutual attraction but the distance is killing me I'm not even in the game because of it.

Should I tell her I don't think that he's right for her if she keeps having to take breaks from him (shes done this about 3 times usually 1 week breaks sometimes 2)

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Originally Posted by Runnindummy

Ok heres my situation ive ran it over inmy head a million times and i just need some clarification i live in a state abou 6 hours from this girl i like she has a boyfriend but shes been taking "breaks" from him and i understand that i really have no chance with this girl i know she likes me but were 4 yrs apart (not te biggest deal) and she lives in another state. ive visited her we met up halfway between once and we stayed at a hotel as friends she went home and waited 2 weeks or so and shes dating her ex again.

What do i do we have a mutual attraction but the distance is killing me im not even in the game because of it.

Should i tell her i dont think that hes right for her if she keeps having to take breaks from him (shes done this about 3 times usually 1 week breaks sometimes 2)

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I hate to be the one to tell you this babe, but this relationship (or lack thereof) is all wrong. The long distance thing rarely proves to be successful and then on top of that she has an on again/off again boyfriend. There is a reason she keeps going back to this guy. Whether he's right for her is irrelevant and it's not your place to tell her. Continue to be friends if you choose to, but be just that... Friends. If you try to be more, I fear that you are opening the door to inevitable heartbreak. Good luck and I hope I could be of at least a little help.

<3 Leslie

Thanks that's pretty much what I've been trying to convince myself to think but I'm hooked on her I feel like I could marry her if I lived by her its hard to just let it go but I'm working on it

Why would you go back to somebody if you've taken several "breaks and they haven't changed (im just curious)

I think it's wrong that she keeps taking breaks to her ex when she claims to be interested in you. You should honestly tell her that you don't apreteate her having her cake and eating it too. It's not fiar for her to be hurting you when she says she has feelings for you. You should tell her if she is truly interested in you that she should make the sacrifice to you by not seeing her ex. Tell her how you feel and tell her it's her choice if she wants you or him.

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Originally Posted by KD33

I think it's wrong that she keeps taking breaks to her ex when she claims to be interested in you. You should honestly tell her that you don't apreteate her having her cake and eating it too. It's not fiar for her to be hurting you when she says she has feelings for you. You should tell her if she is truely interested in you that she should make the sacrafice to you by not seeing her ex. Tell her how you feel and tell her it's her choice if she wants you or him.

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We did that but because she lives in another state she decided it was easier to b with him and that she doesn't like long distance relationships

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What do I do we have a mutual attraction but the distance is killing me I'm not even in the game because of it.

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This is a double whammy, long distance, and unavailable. Your right. This has very little chance of working, unless there are a lot of changes. Break up, to make up, is a red flag, its called instability, and confusion.

You HAVE to stop asking yourself these questions. You HAVE to stop worrying about what she's doing, why, and with whom. You MUST. It's totally none of your business right now. Why do I say that? Because you're a foreigner. You're completely off the field.

Before you give in to the urge to say one thing to this girl about who she should or shouldn't be seeing, MOVE TO HER CITY. Now you're on the field. Now you have the right to have an opinion AND express it.

Anything else is you rudely tossing pot shots into her life from another field. It's mean. If you care that much, put some feet on this and make some sacrifices to go after her. That earns you the right to do it.

Well just see if they r going to hook back up just tell her that if they keep breaking up then wats the point in the relationship

Thanks guys/girls I think ill wait till I'm "on the field" I'm applying to come colleges in her area hopefully this will help me out but I'm making sure that they'll benefit me as well so I'm not screwing up my lifejust in case.

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Originally Posted by Runnindummy

thanks guys/girls i think ill wait till im "on the field" im applying to come colleges in her area hopefully this will help me out but im making sure that theyll benefit me as well so im not screwing up my lifejust incase.

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Good idea... take care of you! If you all are meant to be together it'll happen. Just do as your doing. Worry about your schooling, yourself, let everything else work itself out.