I have been with my boyfriend a while now, I am 22, he is 23. He is very sexual whereas I'm not, we have meet in the middle and we do have sex quite a lot, but its usually spontaneous, never planned and I don't agree with dressing up, sex toys etc.

Recently he has asked if he could have some sexy photos of me and if I would send dirty texts. He told me he wanks over me every night before bed.

Is this normal behaviour? I mean sometimes we may have sex at like 11.30pm and I will go home after and then sometimes it won't be an hour after and he will be wanking over me, and why does he tell me he is doing it?

Please help?

He is a highly sex charged young guy, who isn't afraid to express this to you. He wants you to know. If he does anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, simply tell him.

I do tell him that I'm not into dirty side of sex, he doesn't have a problem but every now again I think he tries it again by asking for a dirty sexy picture or something.

We tend to have sex every time I see him which is like every other day mostly, is this normal? Its just I don't want to be used for sex.

He is always texting me, asking about me, phoning me etc when I'm not with him, we do talk about sex a lot, but we do have other conversations as well. I usually find he is a lot more relaxed after sex and that's when we can chill, watch a movie, talk, mess around, have a laugh and giggle, but is that blackmail into making us have sex so I can see and enjoy his relaxed state more, or is it general knowledge that lads relax after sex or should I say after orgasm!

Sounds like he is trying to see how much of a naughty side you have. Maybe he is trying to get you to tell him that you do the same things thinking about him.

My dear, despite his appetites sexually, you are not obligated to give him sex everyday, unless you want to, and if he can't do without it sometimes, then that is not very healthy on his part. If he has to have it everyday, then yes its possible that he is using you, to satisfy his needs.