I have been knowing this guy for almost three years now and he has a total of five kids;two baby mothers, but one is my son. We have been dating now for about a year. But my biggest problem is he does not want to tell his baby mother who has three of his kids that he is dating me. He said he will once he clear some problems legally with his first baby mother that only has one child, so then he will be ready to pay for any new problems that might arrive when he does tell her. But since she doesn't know about me at times I feel as though he might be cheating on me with her. Even though I try to think positive about everything he tells me like; he loves me, this is his first real relationship, he never wanted to get married until I came along, he compares me to his dear grandmother who pasted away because he was so close to her. So my question is, is he cheating and if not how can I make those thoughts go away of him having the ability to cheat on me with her?

We can't tell you if he's cheating or not because we don't no him all we can do is try and help you stop these untrusting thoughts but it is hard to do,I have them[because I've been hurt really badly in the past]] and I try to keep mymind bizi with other things because if you let them get in the way your going to ruin your relationship

[[JUST KEEP TELLING YOURSELF YOU can't PAINT THEM ALL WITH THE SAME BRUSH]]

Because you cant,if you do your going to ruin every relationship you have and mays well just be on your own.just try and help him clear these legal matters he has with his 1st baby's mother and see then if he tells her but its up to you

Good luck

I imagine he tells you all the same thing. Stop listening to his words, and judge by his actions, and they speak volumes about his true nature. After all he has 5 kids, and 3 baby's mama's including you, whom he keeps secret, and out of the loop, while he deals with the others. What part of marrying this type of man, fascinates you so much? I think you will be better served getting your own act together and making a healthy happy life for your child and not be is such a hurry to believe this fellow, let alone marry him. To many red flags and I think you see them too.