Ask Me Help Desk - What does anyone think of this?

I am really starting to lean towards the turn and run option, I broke up with my girlfriend of almost 2 years. I soon realized that I made a mistake, about 3 weeks after we broke up I went to her place to talk the conversation was going good until she said she was moving in with 2 guys she works with and asked if I had a problem with that ( I am not a jelous guy unless they have had previous relationships with that person). I told her I don't have a problem with it unless she slept with one of them, well guess what a few days before she slept with one of them, and works with him every day and this is not awkward to her. I completeley lost it saying anything you can imagine to her (she has been with a lot more people than me, I already had problems with that, but I got over it until this moment, what happens in the past is the past.) I talked to her a week later about it she doesn't regret any of it even though if it never happened we would be together right now. During this conversation I told her I am willing to let it go and try to start over with her. She wants some time to think about it, I don't know if I should be willing to wait or try to move on and learn from this one. My eyes have been opened during this relationship and I am starting to think that there are few people with morals anymore, not just her but just about everyone around me can just sleep with people with no emotional attachment. This is the 3rd person that she works with that she has been with 2 were before we were together, but this one was shortly after we broke up and she is moving in with him already. Are there any descent girls out there anymore? I don't think I am an unresonable guy, not a bad looking, but I can't seem to find a girl that has the same self-respect and morals I do. Writing this just made me realize that I am just going to turn and run. So what are anyone else's thoughts on this?

I think you need to look back and realize that You broke up with her... so you have no right on saying anything about her sleeping with another guy when you wernt together! And I believe that you saying " dis there any descent girls out there anymore" was extreamly rude... I think you need to realize that you can't control women and tell them what they can and can't do... I think SHe is way better off without you, she can make her own decisions you have no say in it, and yes there are plenty of descent women out there still, but I can honestly say for that coment you made I don't think you're a descent man!

You said that a few days before you had that conversation with her, the one after you broke up, she slept with one of those guys. Techincally no matter what you think of her, she wasn't with you at the time. She was single, so I understand being ticked about it but she really didn't do anything wrong.(as far as the relationship is concerned) And for the record you broke up with her, so she doesn't have to explain anything to you at that point.
If you guys got back together and she did this then yeah you would be in your right to be mad. Unless there is more to the story, has she cheated on you?

I think it comes down to this. IF your together can you trust her? If it's a question of her morals, and you believe that's what's going to make or break whether or not you want to get back together with her, do you want a girl who jumps in the sack as soon as she's available? Then I think you answered your question.

There are plenty of girls out there, you just have to take the time. It will happen. If this girl isn't the one, then move on.

Don't run, just walk away. You will see many people, who do not share your values in life, or have there own. Make your own life, your own way, and leave her to hers. A good decision on your part though.

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Originally Posted by copenhagen1985

i don't have a problem with it unless she slept with one of them, well guess what a few days before she slept with one of them, and this is not awkward to her.
i talked to her a week later about it she dosn't regret any of it even though if it never happened we would be together right now.
she wants some time to think about it, i don't know if i should be willing to wait or try to move on and learn from this one. my eyes have been opened not just her but just about everyone around me can just sleep with people with no emotional attachment.
but this one was shortly after we broke up and she is moving in with him already.
turn and run. so what are anyone else's thoughts on this?

Turn and run
She evidently moved on and is stringing you along with the "I'll think about it"

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Originally Posted by starfirefly

i think you need to look back and realize that You borke up with her...so you have no right on saying anything about her sleeping with another guy when you wernt together!! and i believe that you saying " dis there any descent girls out there anymore" was extreamly rude... i think you need to realize that you can't control women and tell them what they can and can't do... i think SHe is way better off without you, she can make her own decisions you have no say in it, and yes there are plenty of descent women out there still, but i can honestly say for that coment you made i dont think your a descent man!!

I am sorry that I offended you with that comment or anyone else, that is not what I was trying to do, and I do know that there are descent girls out there I have met plenty of them. I understand that I broke up with her, she has hinted at me during that time that she still wants to be with me, even during the conversation that I found out about it she said that she would be willing to do anything to be back with me, but doesn't regret what she did. But she has quite the past and we have talked about it before and she said she regrets the way that she was before, now how can she regret what she has done in her past when she still does it today? That is 3 people that she has been with that she directly works with everyday (it's not awkward for her), and also all the one's she has been with before that. Maybe I am just a little behind but 24 guys to me is quite the past. Again I am sorry that I offended you.

I had a feeling that even though you broke up it was like you were talking about getting back together. To me if there is still a chance with someone you do not go looking in other places until you know it is through. I would run, don't walk, don't let the door hit you!
She has no regrets, she doesn't see where she did anything wrong so how could you ever trust her in a relationship if 'it is nothing'?

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Originally Posted by bizygurl

you said that a few days before you had that conversation with her, the one after you broke up, she slept with one of those guys. Techincally no matter what you think of her, she wasn't with you at the time. She was single, so i understand being ticked about it but she really didn't do anything wrong.(as far as the relationship is concerned) And for the record you broke up with her, so she doesn't have to explain anything to you at that point.
If you guys got back together and she did this then yeah you would be in your right to be mad. Unless there is more to the story, has she cheated on you?

I think it comes down to this. IF your together can you trust her? If its a question of her morals, and you beleive thats whats going to make or break wether or not you want to get back together with her, do you want a girl who jumps in the sack as soon as she's available? Then i think you answered your question.

There are plenty of girls out there, you just have to take the time. It will happen. If this girl isn't the one, then move on.

I know she didn't do anything wrong, because she was single. It is more about her morals, it just kills me to hear her say one thing then do another. You are right I did answer my own question I am going to move on. It only takes time to get over anything. Thanks for the advice though.

I can't speak for the others. But you didn't offend me. I think we just wanted to make it clear to you that she hadn't done anything wrong by sleeping with these men when you were broken up. I think from your first post it had seemed that you were upset that you had an attitude like "how dare she". But now you have clarified it better, I think the real issue is that your having a problem with her choices and her morals. Or lack of morals. If you can get past all that then the relationship could work, if you can't and your always going to have this hang up about her then its not going to work. Sometimes there are things that a person can't get passed about another person and that's OK, then you know that they aren't the right one. If you can't then its probably best you cut her loose and let her do her thing.