Ask Me Help Desk - One week N/C

Sooo this has been my first week with no contact with my ex, when I told him last week I wanted us to stop having any contact he was gutted but said if that was what I wanted he would stick with it but that he would miss me too much, even though I know it is best that he has not tried calling or txting me it still makes me so sad that I have not heard from him... I really feel like I am lossing him completely which I know is again for the best but I am so close to just txting him all I want is to know he is still thinking about me...

One thing that amazes me about all this is that I always thought I was stronger than I am being now, I have never been a needy or insecure person and sudenly I have become everything that I never wanted to be and it drives me crazy!!

I feel you. I'm on day 13. She hasn't called me and I haven't called her. Before I went with nc, she told me she had a new boyfriend. So thinking of me will probably be the least on her mind. I'm starting to forget what her face looks like.

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Originally Posted by len21

sooo this has been my first week with no contact with my ex, when i told him last week i wanted us to stop having any contact he was gutted but said if that was what i wanted he would stick with it but that he would miss me too much, even though i know it is best that he has not tried calling or txting me it still makes me so sad that i have not heard from him.... i really feel like i am lossing him completely which i know is again for the best but i am so close to just txting him all i want is to know he is still thinking about me...

One thing that amazes me about all this is that i always thought i was stronger than i am being now, i have never been a needy or insecure person and sudenly i have become everything that i never wanted to be and it drives me crazy!!!

Naturally he will think of you, even if its for a milli of a second, he could possibly have picked up the phone or started to draft a message, but didn't. THe fact is we don't know, and because you are doing no contact don't go back there, perhaps you might not get the response you were looking for, For an example, what if he doesn't answer your text back, you will be back at square one, if he respond in a manner showing he doesn't care would probably devestate you and you will be back to square one, Stick firm to your decision of him not contacting you, because you want him to know that what you say is what you mean no matter how much it hurts, perhaps when you are healed completely who knows then you will be able to talk to him and not be affected by his presence, but for now you must get over him..,. just don't call him at this point it is too soon... No one likes to feel that way its totally normal, to be out of your comfort zone as some point in your life, but take it one day at a time, keep yourself busy!

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suddenly I have become everything that I never wanted to be and it drives me crazy!!

Be glad to be free, and in a position to make the changes you need to get back to loving yourself for who you are. We all get thrown off our game when we get hurt, but we can recover, and be happy. Good Luck with your makeover.