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  • Mar 24, 2008, 01:33 PM
    red grasshopper12
    Jealous of family members
    I think I am jealous of people in my family they are married and I have nothing. I just get bored with my life I want something more .
  • Mar 24, 2008, 01:38 PM
    Wondergirl
    They are probably envious of you, with all your freedom and independence and potential. Do you have a job? Go to school? Volunteer anywhere? Have hobbies? Read books? Play any sport?
  • Mar 24, 2008, 01:44 PM
    red grasshopper12
    I used to have job but I had to quit.
  • Mar 24, 2008, 01:48 PM
    bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE
    Why did you have to quit your job?
  • Mar 24, 2008, 01:58 PM
    red grasshopper12
    Well my boss gave me a letter of warning telling me that I had to work harder and I work as hard as I could. I gave my mom the note and she got ticked at my boss and told me I am never going back there.
  • Mar 24, 2008, 02:10 PM
    Wondergirl
    How old are you? Why would you give your mother the note? And why does she have the power to tell you to quit? Why not talk with the boss about your work situation?
  • Mar 24, 2008, 02:13 PM
    red grasshopper12
    I was 18yrs. Old. My grandmother picked me up and I started to cry and I gave her the note and she told my mom. My mom called my boss about the note. But then my mom called me and told me that I am not going back there. Plus. I did talk to my boss
  • Mar 24, 2008, 02:15 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by red grasshopper12
    i was 18yrs. old. i had to cry.

    Why did you cry? Was it a job you liked? What did you do?

    How old are you now? Do you live with your mother?
  • Mar 24, 2008, 02:26 PM
    red grasshopper12
    I guess cause I got the note. I liked it for a while then it just got exhausting because they changed my schedule. I work in the nursing home doing laundry.
  • Mar 24, 2008, 02:28 PM
    bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE
    How old are you now?
  • Mar 24, 2008, 02:33 PM
    red grasshopper12
    I'm 26 now
  • Mar 24, 2008, 02:36 PM
    Wondergirl
    Do you have a job coach, or have you ever had one?
  • Mar 24, 2008, 02:39 PM
    red grasshopper12
    No
  • Mar 24, 2008, 02:43 PM
    Wondergirl
    Well, I think it's time you had one. Are you anywhere near a city or a medium-sized town, or do you live near farms? May I ask what state you live in?

    There is something called the Department of Rehab Services (DORS) that will test you for you abilities and will match you with a job coach who will help you find a new job. Do you know about DORS?
  • Mar 24, 2008, 02:43 PM
    Wondergirl
    Well, I think it's time you had one. Are you anywhere near a city or a medium-sized town, or do you live near farms? May I ask what state you live in?

    There is something called the Department of Rehab Services (DORS) that will test you for your abilities and will match you with a job coach who will help you find a new job. Do you know about DORS?
  • Mar 24, 2008, 02:45 PM
    Chery
    At your age, most people take on a job just to earn money and then find out it is not for them. You need to find something that you'd really like to do and maybe go into an apprenticeship. That might mean a little less money at the start, but if you still live at home, it might just give you a chance to concentrate on looking for something that just right for you.

    Being jealous of family members is not really jealousy.. it is generally envy.. but look at it this way - your just starting in life and on your journey you will find yourself, your taste in women, the right attitude towards life, and have plenty of time to 'find' yourself and to be able to share the same interests. This all takes time, so don't be in a hurry to jump into something you are not sure of just because you are a little dissatisfied with your own life at present. This is the time to get to know yourself and grow, and that takes time, so be patient.

    I would also suggest that you tell Mom that you are going to try to handle your affairs on your own and will ask her for help if you think you need it, but that you'd rather take charge as best as you can. Mom's forget that their 'babys' need a chance to grow up and make their own mistakes and develop the strength to deal with them as they come. I think the more steps you take toward independence, the prouder your grandma and mom will be.. even though it is sometimes hard for them to 'let go' of the feeling that they have to protect you all your life.

    Go out and visit friends your age, or make new friends. Don't turn into a 'wallflower' because you think that mom and grandma need you around all the time. Show them that you are growing and need a little space to be yourself.

    Let us know what type of job you might be interested in, what you'd like to do with your spare time, hobbies, etc. and we might be able to give you some hints on how to achieve your goals.

    Good luck dear, and keep us posted.

    http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_9_16.gif It's time you get into the 'driver's seat' and take charge.
  • Mar 24, 2008, 02:47 PM
    red grasshopper12
    My mom and I been trying to get me a job at our library in our neighborhood.
  • Mar 24, 2008, 02:49 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by red grasshopper12
    my mom and i been trying to get me a job at our library in our neighborhood.

    Ah! I know all about libraries. I work in one. What jobs have you applied for? Maybe I can help with this.
  • Mar 24, 2008, 02:57 PM
    red grasshopper12
    Probably stocking books on shelves.
  • Mar 24, 2008, 03:01 PM
    Wondergirl
    Do you know how to put decimals in order from smallest to largest? That would be important.

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