In the beginning of our relationship, I never really treated my girlfriend the best I could. She told me I wasn't there emotionally as much as I should have, or as much as she needed. We had our share of arguments, but got through them all of course.

In the past months or so, she has had her doubts of whether she wants be in a relationship. We got engaged on her twentieth birthday, and this last month was a year and a half that we've been together. She told me that she's young and has been thinking about what it would be like being single and being on her own. Lately she's been talking to people online and been talking one single guy for awhile. She's said she's doing it for the emotional support that she hasn't been able to get.

I've told her I had a fantasy of her doing something with someone else, but was never sure if I could go through with it.

Well, I've gone back and forth of changing my mind and its left on the decision that this guy is coming down from New Jersey to see her. They're getting a motel together, and will be together from wendesday morning until Friday afternoon. My girl said she's in just for the sex, and the experience of it all.

She said she wants to be with me forever, but wants this for herself. She said she'll come back to me and forget about him. And during the week, we won't be considered together, and I was free to do something with someone else.

I'm not sure about it all, and don't know what to do anymore. They guy already has plane tickets, and a rental car.

So basically what your saying is that your girlfriend wants her cake and eat it too? Because that is exactly what is going on. I can understand your girlfriends feelings on wanting to be single and exploring what life has to offer on her own. She is only twenty. And regardless whether or not you have been there for her or not she sounds like she's having regrets being in this relationship and it more or less sounds like she wants to be single. If it was truly or least the main reason, that you were to blame, she would just break up with you and you both would go your separate ways. If your not the man for her, then your not. BUT the mere fact that this girl has the nerve to say to you that she is going to get a MOTEL with another man and its just "sex" and that she wants to be with you FOREVER! That's the biggest load of BS I've ever heard.

Sweetie number 1... she doesn't love you. If she loved you she would tell you the truth.. she wants to be on her own and that means without you. She doesn't want to be with you forever.. thats riduculous. And shame on her to think that you would even accept that kind of behavior. Number 2 say that you do accept this, How on earth will you ever be able to trust her again? Yeah things may be OK for a month or two(sorta) until she meets another single guy(or taken) on the net and wants to (expirence the sex and all)

Hon, there are WAY toooo many good girls out there. I was one of them, when I was single. I would and like other good girls would Never treat you like that. That's ridiculous. Sounds like you need an older girl who has had the "expirence" and gotten it out of her system. Simply put: Cut her loose!
PS... she IS cheating on you!

Dating is to meet different people in order to find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Time for both of you to move on and date a lot more. Both of you are too immature to be thinking of marriage!

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Originally Posted by onebelow

... She said she wants to be with me forever, but wants this for herself. She said she'll come back to me and forget about him. And during the week, we won't be considered together, and i was free to do something with someone else.
I'm not sure about it all, and dont know what to do anymore. The guy already has plane tickets, and a rental car.

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All I can say is that this is not a very viable basis for a permanent relationship.
Not because she gained some experience BEFORE you two joined up, but because she is doing that WITHIN that relationship, and forces you to accept that.
As Choux already stated : Time for both of you to move on and date a lot more.
Enjoy your newfound freedom in your search for a more suitable partner!
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Originally Posted by Choux

Dating is to meet different people in order to find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Time for both of you to move on and date a lot more. Both of you are too immature to be thinking of marriage!

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I'll second that as well. If either of you feel the need to do this then your relationship isn't what it needs to be. Neither of you are ready to be engaged much less married as long as one of you wants to be fooling around. And yes even if its only one its still the same answer. A marriage is a partnership... not a you stay home whiile I'm off sowing my wild oats.

I am so confused.

Your fiancé says that you aren't there for her emotionally and then she convinces you that after her 'sexual expierence' with this dude from Jersey she will want to be with you forever. PUAH!

I hope you can see the disaterousness in this coming. Is that a word? Lol.

You know what you should do? Walk away. Leave. End it. Forget about it.

Give me an example as to why she claims that you aren't there for her emotionally.

I agree with bizygurl, if you settle with what she is going to do to you THIS time then where will it end, she is full of BS, and what will you settle for the next time, maybe she will want to be with two guys,or two girls, "JUST FOR THE SEX", not that there is anything wrong with that, but not if your in a committed relationship, what is next? She doesn't love you, and if she goes through with this, or even brings it up again then she is not for you. Move on and find a good girl that really loves you.

She's a cheat. Like others have said she is full of BS she hopes you will buy. Dump the Biatch

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