Ask Me Help Desk - Sold the puppy I bought her

I was in a long distance relationship with a very high maintntce girl, for whatever reason I saw myself moving up to virginia with her, so I bought us a dog, and sent it up to her until I would be ready to move up there as well. Long story short, I broke up with her for good reasons, and she refused to give the dog back... This was a wehile ago, over a year, but I spent months begging for the dog that I paid $1800 for!! SHe said no,. that it was a gift to her and that she loved the dog. I just found out that she gave him to her mom to sell him for her.. heres my question... can I sue her for my money back?

Can you sue, of course can you win, nope. Unless you have some type of proof it is not a gift, ( and the fact you waited over a year to do something legally)
Sounds more ( and sorry I will call it like the judge would) you bought her a dog, you were not living in the same state, it appears to be a gift, you broke up, and wanted the dog back,

Several lessons, 1. ain't no dog worth 1800, 2. few girlfriends worth 1800, 3. you don't get gifts back.

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

Can you sue, of course can you win, nope. unless you have some type of proof it is not a gift, ( and the fact you waited over a year to do something legally)
Sounds more ( and sorry I will call it like the judge would) you bought her a dog, you were not living in the same state, it appears to be a gift, you broke up, and wanted the dog back,

Several lessons, 1. ain't no dog worth 1800, 2. few girlfriends worth 1800, 3. you don't get gifts back.

To say nothing of the logistics of suing someone in another State.

Why do people beg for property back?

Wouldn't it be easier to have gone and visited her, taken the dog back FIRST, before breaking up.

Did you think she wouldn't be upset when you dumped her, then you ask her for something?

If anything, the dog is 50% yours, 50% hers….. So we are talking 900 bucks, plus the complications of having to go to her state to sue her.

And then, there is no guarantee you will even win.

Seems like a lot of hassle (because it is out of state).

But if you wish to pursue it, then go for it.

I have to agree with the others. That does suck to be in that situation. Sounds like "sour grapes" on her part. I highly doubt she cared that much for the dog if she turned around and sold it. I think it's a lot to go through just to get money from her and like the others said you may not win, then you spent the time and money on suing her. Although you both owned the dog, you sent it to be with her and she was caring for it, whether or not she was lying about wanting to keep it or not, you did wait a long time to think about suing her for it. I think you should just take it as a lesson learned and move on. But if not then Good Luck!

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Originally Posted by bizygurl

I have to agree with the others. That does suck to be in that situation. Sounds like "sour grapes" on her part. I highly doubt she cared that much for the dog if she turned around and sold it. I think its a lot to go through just to get money from her and like the others said you may not win, then you spent the time and money on suing her. Although you both owned the dog, you sent it to be with her and she was caring for it, wether or not she was lying about wanting to keep it or not, you did wait a long time to think about suing her for it. I think you should just take it as a lesson learned and move on. But if not then Good Luck!

Sour grapes on HER part? The dog's been living with her. I don't see anything about how much he loved/loves the dog, how much time he spends with it - now they've broken up and HE wants the dog "back?" Whether she's actually selling it is anyone's guess, of course. Might be easier for her to say the dog is gone than argue with him any more.

I don't know why you highly doubt she ever cared for the dog - but did he? It wasn't even with him. At least (in theory) she trained it, fed it, took it on walks, took it to the Vet.

This is not the bracelet he gave her for Christmas that she's going to put in a box and mail back to him because he thinks all gifts should revert to him.

No sympathy from here. Reminds me of every break up where anything he ever gave you (including the cost of dinners and movies) turns into a loan.

My brother once bought a pregnamt horse for a girlfriend, then she broke up with him. He had no way of keeping a horse, so he walked away from the horse, and a real horse's petuti. Found out later, that she did the same thing to a couple of other guys.

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

1. ain't no dog worth 1800, 2. few girlfriends worth 1800, 3. you don't get gifts back.

Hello Padre:

I've been reading your stuff for more'n 10 years now. It's always been good. However, this time, you've outdone yourself.

excon

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Originally Posted by excon

Hello Padre:

I've been reading your stuff for more'n 10 years now. It's always been good. However, this time, you've outdone yourself.

excon

Had to spread the rep.

Yup, Fr_Chuck is in top form. I have to say, if I see a post were he has replied I will be more likely to take a look at the post, I can say the same for you Ex Con. I love the way you two tell it like it is. Oh, I especially love it when you two post on the same thread, did anyone ever tell you that you make a good team? Batman and Robin? Who's Robin?

To the OP,

Kiss the puppy and the money good bye. If you had bought her a bracelet while you were dating you would have a snow balls chance in He*l getting it back, same for the puppy. You can't prove it wasn't a gift, and she has a right to do what she wants with her property. That's what this pup is, her property.

I do feel sorry for the puppy though, not it's fault it's being tossed around like a sack of potatoes. Let this be a lesson, pet ownership is a major undertaking, pets should never be given as gifts, ever.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Sour grapes on HER part? The dog's been living with her. I don't see anything about how much he loved/loves the dog, how much time he spends with it - now they've broken up and HE wants the dog "back?" Whether or not she's actually selling it is anyone's guess, of course. Might be easier for her to say the dog is gone than argue with him any more.

I don't know why you highly doubt she ever cared for the dog - but did he? It wasn't even with him. At least (in theory) she trained it, fed it, took it on walks, took it to the Vet.

This is not the bracelet he gave her for Christmas that she's going to put in a box and mail back to him because he thinks all gifts should revert to him.

No sympathy from here. Reminds me of every break up where anything he ever gave you (including the cost of dinners and movies) turns into a loan.

I wasn't taking sides on this issue, I agree that if he really wanted and cared about the dog, he should have gotten it back from her awhile ago. The poster obviously didn't understand why this woman would have sold the dog in the first place if she had intended on keeping it. I was just giving an idea as to why she may have sold it. Of course no one knows why she sold it, but in "my" opinion it sounds like it could have been "sour grapes" and I say that, because after he sent the dog up to be with her he ended up breaking up with her. It sounded like she didn't want to give the dog back and then for whatever reason when she didn't want it anymore, had her mother sell it, otherwise, why not just ask him if he wanted the dog back, since he had offered to take it back in the first place. Your right it isn't a bracelet to just send back to him it was an dog. My reasoning was that here was someone who would have wanted the dog, then if she couldn't take care of it or didn't want it anymore then why have her mom sell it to someone she didn't know. Sounds like he was more than willing to come get the dog if she had only asked. The question was "can he sue her for the dog"? If he wants to try that then that's his decision, I don't think it would be in his favor. I don't think its right to try and sue her for that. And solely based on the fact that "the dog was in her care the whole time" She took care of the dog.. and if she wanted to sell it then it was her decision to make, and he didn't have much if any say to that. All I know if it was me, I would ask to take the dog and if my ex-boyfriend turned around and sold it, id be pissed since it wasn't a gift to him but something that we were going to take care of together. I just offered an idea as to why she made the decision. It was just an opinion nothing more, nothing less

I did take care of the puppy for a month before I let her keep him,. I named him, and paid for him... etc.etc.etc. I talked to a judge, she told me I may have a case because she lied to me and sold it for a profit, butI would be wasting a lot of time and headache. I asked her for him back for 4 months... I can't understand how she just sold him like that, and I never will... at this point,. karma's a Im sure she'll get what's coming to her.

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Originally Posted by marcus83

I did take care of the puppy for a month before I let her keep him,...I named him, and paid for him...etc.etc.etc. I talked to a judge, she told me I may have a case because she lied to me and sold it for a profit, butI would be wasting alot of time and headache. I asked her for him back for 4 months...I can't understand how she just sold him like that, and I never will....at this point,...karma's a Im sure she'll get whats coming to her.

The Judge gave an opinon but didn't rule - ?

I'm confused.