I can't decide whether to stay or leave
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I have been in a stable, loving relationship with another woman for almost 10 years. We definitely love each other and have been through so much together, but the passion has not been there for me for several years. This was fine for me until I met another woman a few months ago and fell hopelessly in love with her. She is also in a long-term relationship and feels the same as I do about her partner. As strongly as I felt about her, I couldn't bear to leave my partner and told her that. It broke her heart but it broke mine too. We have tried to get over it but we just can't get each other out of our minds. I know because we keep writing even though we shouldn't. It's been several months now. I am trying to patch up my relationship with my partner, but it is just not happening. Oh, and just so you know. We never had sex. Neither of us was willing to cheat on our partners even though the love was so strong. But we betrayed them with our emotions. I have never felt so torn. I am still in love with this person and want so much to be able to express this love, but when I think of the hearts we'd be breaking... it just sucks either way you look at it. My partner doesn't want to hear about it, and says that everything would have been fine if I hadn't fallen for this woman. But doesn't that mean that something was missing in our relationship? And I feel like a real loser for not even being able to sort out my feelings or take responsibility for my actions. It's just been so long and this is the first time something like this happened to me. I don't know what to do or who to turn to.