Hi there! I had a 7years relationship, and one day things weren't going good and we broke up. We were very nice friends, he was/is my best friend and I know I was (and maybe still) his best friend. It was almost 3months ago. We had almost 2 weeks of no contact and after that things make better, we chat by IM.. but soon I realize that he loves to talk by internet but wasn't readdy to be with me, to see me. So I give him some space, 3 days (I know it was much time!) and today we chat a little, and he said he was at home, finally! Because nowadays he's always working. So, as we had something's to give each other, I went to his house. We talked, we laughed and I asked him a hug. He said no and I told him not to be stupid. Then he started to do something and I forgot it. Some minutes later he talked about that hug and I realized that he wanted it too, but he was afraid of something. So, we give a big hug and we talked about what was going on... he told me that it we had sex it was not the same as get back together, and I said I knew it. So we had sex. Aftar that we talked more about it, I was nice but he was a little thoughtful and he told me that it was not so easy because I'm special. He's very special to me too... and I would like to get back together... I guess I need some help!

See its times like these when you want to be careful with your feelings, simply because you have so much of yourself invested in this man, has he made any moves that would lead you to believe he wants to get back together other than having sex with you? You want to make sure you look out for yourself first because if he isn't interested in getting back with you then he has no business having sex with you. Does he know how you feel, I mean that you are interested in starting the relationship over?

He must miss having sex, but not miss living with you.
You both need to work out the details for why you separated, address those issues, if you can it may be possible to get back together.

Sex with the ex always make all the old feelings come bac! You two did have alot of time in(7yrs). Are you sure you wanna get back with him? Sometimes good sex will make you think that, then as you think about why you broke up in the first place you decide your better off friends! So b4 you make any fast decisions think back on how the relationship was. good luck

Good sex with ex always remind woman old feelings,old relationship... and then make her want to get back to her ex! But I guess good ex with ex does not means love,same love as before for each other... don't be too emotional,think about that why you broke up! That's more important!

As long as he can have friends with benefits why would he want to get back together cause he
Will feel like he has the best of both worlds... his freedom and some sex at his convenience.

Before we had sex we talked about it, he said he doesn't want to get back, and I knew it. I told him that I'm feeling good being lonely, and I know he's feeling good too. So we make it only after talk about it and be sure about what was going on. After that, I'm nice, I know we won't get back, or if we do, it won't be right now. The very big "problem" is that we are so very good friends and we know each other very well, and we also like have sex with each other... but our relationship didn't work, we get tired of it.
Yesterday night we went to a bar with some friends, and as I told him, I acted like nothing has happen... but he didn't do that, and he asked me about what we did. I believe we'll find the better way to face this "problem".
I know I love him, but I don't want to get back... not now,maybe in the future.