This will take a while to read... sorry.
Ok so this has been going on for a couple years...
OK so freshman year of high school my BEST friend dated this guy I was friends with... but she broke up with him because she was bored.
The guy and I grew closer afterwards and we talked all the time. My friends used to refer to him as my stalker because he woul;d even walk me to class. Everyone said "he is crazy about you... he follows you areound like a puppy" so after a couple months I realized I had a HUGE crush on him... like gigantic. I finally told my friends and they said.. go for it, so I told him how I felt (I had nothing to lose right? Guess I forgot my dignity... lol.) and he said that he thought we should stay friends, surprisingly enough we were close enough that this didn't put a huge damper on our friendship... I called my best friend crying several times and she told me that everything was going to be OK... then guess what... she went after him... and got him. So she is dating him while secretly talking about how much he annoys her and stuff... and he talks to me for like 3 hours a night then he starts talking about nothing but her. It was killing me, so I ended our friendship for a few months (I cried myself to sleep every night during those months) because everyone said it was unhealthy and he was manipulative of me... which was absolutely true. It was a unhealthy friendship. It turns out I was depressed... go figure. I have been cutting myself for over 2 years now... but that's not the point. Anyway so I ended my friendship with him and my best friend broke up with him. So after a few months I started talking to him again, but our friendship never was really the same. After a couple months of being friends with him again I told my friends that I still liked him and one of my friends dated him and the broke up with him and my best friend dated him again (are you counting that's a THIRD time) well this time they dated for over a year... all the while I was trying to be super supportive of them... Now that they have broken up everyone I am friends with hates him. They hate him a LOT... and they expect me to hate him too, but I keep talking to him because I think he has the right to make his own choices. Now everyone is angry at me for not choosing sides, they say I don't care about my best friend enough because I defend him when she talks trash about him... am I a bad friends for wanting to stay neutral? What would you do?