How do I get away from a sociopath?
I've been dating a man for 9 months now. Things were always a little weird (he wouldn't always answer his calls, sometimes he would leave at 3am instead of staying all night, etc.), but he always charmed his way out of it when I was angry. Lately he stays with me most nights and has been really sweet, even though I pay for everything and he drinks way too much.
He always told me that he lived with his friends Jenny and Mike, who were married. I had even met Jenny, but never Mike. Last night I had dinner with Jenny (my boyfriend doesn't know), and found out that my boyfriend and Jenny have been dating and living together for 3 years. He told her that I was his friend's girlfriend. Basically he's been dating both of us, and constructed lies so elaborate that I can't believe he got away with it for so long.
He has stolen over $30,000 from her through identity theft. He's already used two of my credit cards, but I didn't want to believe it was him. He doesn't seem to care about how badly he hurts people. We suspect that he has even more girls on the side. I have to go get tested, because I have no idea who he's been sleeping with.
Jenny kicked him out, and wrote me an email telling me. That day he used my car to pick up his stuff, then just told me it was some stuff from storage he wanted to go through. But of course it's all at my house.
Worst of all, she said that if you confront him and are nice, he'll deny everything, but if you confront him and are firm, he gets violent. I've never seen him get violent, but she said he's pushed her, choked her, and swung stuff at her head. Now I'm scared. I don't know how to get away from him. I still care about him, and the illusion that he's set up is so great. But I realize it's just that - an illusion. I have to talk to him, and I'm going to do it in a public place. But what about after that? He'll have to come get stuff from my house, and I'll be alone with him. I don't want to be scared of him. This is all so crazy. I'm scared and confused - help, please?