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  • Mar 18, 2008, 09:27 PM
    George4321
    Don't know what to do
    Me and my ex-wife talk 2-3 times a day usually on the phone. We have a child together so most of the time its about him. We've been apart for almost 5 yrs but we've continued to do this the whole time. We have way too much interaction for her being re-married and me having a girl friend. We haven't done anything together but I can feel the attraction. Ive tried to get over her but I cant. I still love her and I feel like she does to I'm just not sure. We were very young when we got married and we weren't ready for marriage so we moved on. I just have this feeling that we both feel the same way about each other now but neither one of us has had the courage to tell the other. Her husband and my girlfriend have both said that we still act like were married multiple times and I finally realized that they are right. If we aren't going to be together then we need to stop talking and acting like we do. I think Im going to tell her that I still love her and ask her how she feels. I just look at our situation and think why aren't we together? They don't have any kids together and we do. We are both older and have a better understanding of what we want. The part that's really driving me crazy is I don't know if she feels the same way I do. I think she does but not 100%. Should I tell her and does it sound like she still has it for me?
  • Mar 18, 2008, 09:38 PM
    redcard
    Relationships often look rosier than they are in retrospect. Blame it on our human nature. People move on and at some point they wonder what it would have been like if they had stuck it out. Its wonderful that youe EX and you have a good relationship. That's great, especially for your daughter. The reaction from your gilfriend and your Ex husband, might not be as deep as your thinking. Many people expect people who are separated to be bitter to each other. Maybe what they mean to say is that its refreshing that you aren't.
    You have both moved on to new relationships. If you are in love with your EX, then telling your girlfriend about this might be a good idea. The last thing that you need is to be stringing her along. You have looked over at your EX, because you are not happy with the way things are in your present relationship. Fix that problem first and trust me everything will fall in place. If your EX feels the way you do, it will be only a matter of time that she reveals her feelings to you. Until then,heads up and I wish you luck in trying to figure out first if you want to be with your present GF.
  • Mar 18, 2008, 09:40 PM
    Homegirl 50
    She has a husband, you need to leave it alone.
    How long has she been remarried?
    You two may still have something. I can't imagine why you would be talking to each other that many times during the day, but if it was really something there, why did she get married again and you have a girl friend?
    Are you happy in your relationship and is she happy in her marriage? You don't want to start something and then discover you've walked away from a good thing because of this "feeling" you have.
  • Mar 19, 2008, 07:02 AM
    talaniman
    You finally get along, and you want to ruin everything, trying to rekindle something only you feel. She is married, and moved on, so what makes you think she is willing to give up what she has, to try again with an ex? Baby daddies are never forgotten, and it's good for your daughter, but honestly, your fooling yourself, thinking things will go back, to the good old days. Let it go.

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