Originally Posted by tkrussell
Only my opinion, but clearly the child has either not connected with you , or has lost connection over the few years you cared for her. I realize your feelings for her, seems for some reason she does not feel the same, or is very vindictive to be able to use the fear factor to shed responsibility for her actions.
I believe you are right here. The past is probably coming into play for my daughter, and there are previous issues of being very let down by biomom and by other women in her life. I am sure she is struggling, and if anything, this brings it to the front burner (awful way to have it happen!) so that we can help her the best we can.
If you are truly innocent, hold your head high in court and anywhere you go for that matter. State Child protective services are usually a bureacuracy with hourly or salary people that tend to keep low and use extra caution, until told otherwise.
Yes, I will. I have nothing to be ashamed of, but they sure can make you feel otherwise! UGH! LOL
Find an attorney with custody and/or family law/relations experience and he will probably petition the court to have your daughter's case reviewed. It is the state's burden to prove your guilt. There are many witnesses available to either back her claim or ultimately disprove her claim. These witnesses are also available to prove your innocence. USE THEM!
Who adopted her, and others ? You
Who allowed you to adopt? State
Who called authorities? You
Be sure they know you volunteered to apply for councelling.
Do not mention she is a runaway, reinforces her claim.
Ask attorney to request immediate custody or demand state prove their case quickly so the family unit is restored as quick as possible.
Implore the court to impose councelling for the daughter immediately.
I want to see what court brings on Tuesday, because of the CHINS right now, it is out of our hands. BUT, I will make sure they are all very clear that she was out for a fun weekend, prepared for dealing with the consequences when she returned home, and NOT running away! If they could drop that CHINS, she could come home. I fear DSS will just petition to continue a CHINS for her, under their custody, and once that occurs, I will call an attorney. So thank you. I do not think we can get someone quick enough for Tuesday, perhaps I can try this weekend or on Monday. Any other suggestions?
You need to postponed the crying, and get ready to clear yourself. Collect your thoughts, and anything else you can muster to display your parental abilities and honor.
Not sure what the husband should do or any opinion of him may be, jury is still out on him, no pun intended.
HE is lucky he has bits and pieces of her right now. He understands my pain, but has something to look forward to, which makes the separation a bit easier for him. But, I have a supervised visit to look forward to, once they get it on the calendar, and then I believe things will begin to get better for me too. Absence is so tough to deal with. Especially an absence I cannot control right now. Hard, but I am dealing the best I can!
I cannot imagine the pain you are in, feeling violated and betrayed by your daughter, and missing her all at once. But you know she is safe, so you must concentrate on yourself now. Try your best to store your emotions and clear your head to be ready to begin this unfortunate turn in your life. hopefully your husband will go with you and support you in any way he can.
Yes, you are right. Seeing her, any mom would cry I am sure, but as far as keeping my feet firmy planted on the ground, I am ready. I will DO THIS!
You can cry all you want once your daughter is home in her bed, until then I wish you the best.
