My boyfriend and I argue so often . The majority of the arguments are started by me because of my insecurities. No surprise that I started our recent argument about him using up our weekend to finish up his work. I was upset that he should have finished it during the work days. I accused him of not working during the week because he's probably doing other useless things. He said I was inconsiderate, not understanding, disrespectful of his profession, and insulting to assume that he was spending time doing nothing. I left for a few days to let ourselves cool down. He used to call me after one day to tell me to come back to reconcile, but it has been four days and he has not called. Is he done with the relationship? Am I right to feel that he probably is feed-up with the arguments and decided it's best to let me leave without a fight?

I always thought myself that when you think to yourself I'm not argueing anymore that's when its over when you can't be botherd to fight your corner

did he shout at you or did he just say in alow tone that you was blah blah blah?
did he say he wasn't arguing with you anymore because he can't be botherd?

my x and I was together for 2 years and I always stood myground because he was in the wrong but one day he was arguing with me I just sat smoking acig not saying anything I couldn't be botherd anymore I had no fight left I got up got abin bag went round the house chucked all his stuff into it and said I'm not arguing anymore passed him his things with him still shouting at me walked him out the door and shut it and he was still shouting at me.

maybe he's waiting for you to contact him to say your sorry for being... and that you was wrong to treat him the way you have and that you would like to come back to talk about it.you could try couple counselling why don't you ask if he will it might save your relationship if he won't you no he's not to botherd if you stay or go

When your with someone you love its nice to have them support you. He doesn't sound like a lazy guy, so that's a huge plus

He is just hurt that you would think that about him. Even more so if he is working hard towards buying you something or for a holiday.

I would let him cool down then talk to him.

But I would work on yourself try not to put him down so much and try and be a bit more understanding.

And in turn try and make him plan a weekend with you.

Regards

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Originally Posted by TrueFaith

but i would work on your self try not to put him down so much and try and be a bit more understanding.

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I AGREE! You should try and work on yourself maybe see acouncillor about why you start these argument

He called you after the first day, and now its up to you, call or move on, and stop jumping in his butt. Maybe staying single, and working on your issues, is what you need more than a relationship. You don't expect him to beg do you?