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So this is very complicated...
But I'm GUARENTEEED YOU'LL LOVE IT
So read carefully before you answer!

In the summer of 2007 me and this boy had a thing and we were so happy and we couldn't get enough of each other, but then when school started back up things got kind of rocky and we broke up in October, it was very emotional for me and I was very unhappy with his decision of breaking up with me "because he lost feelings" it was just so tough for me.
This sounds very conceited but all the guys seem to like me, they tell me I'm a great girl and I deserve the perfect man with everything and that I'm too nice and too gorgeous... and he just made myself esteem go to 0. And don't get me wrong I was not cocky at all towards anyone or my ex boyfriend.

We were broken up for a while and at first we didn't talk much but then we started to hang out since we had the same friends and we slowly started talking again and everything, he said my friendship was very important to him and he cares for me early and doesn't want to see me get hurt. But then me and his best friend started to like each other and I started to go out with him casually and when my ex heard that we had hooked up he was very disapointed and upset with me and his friend, they aren't really friends anymore and he kept me pretty close to him and stuff.

A little time after that I had our group of friends over for a get together and everything was going good, I had another kid over who's name was the same as him and I was fliritng with him and my ex got mad because I said his name the same way and it bugged him so my ex just sat in the corner not talking to anyone but texting and being upset but he didn't tell anyone how he felt and then we got into a little fight and I ended up kicking him out, in a nice way though I just told him he needed to get out because he made comments like "you weren't that good anyways" and when I said "that's not what your best friend told me after we hooked up" and then he said "well i feel bad for him" and then I was just like you bneed to get out
So he left after a while and I was so upset and I ignored him for a few days, after almost a week I texted him and he was so glad that I was talking to him, and he said sorry and that my friendship wasn't important to him even if I didn't believe that...
It was tough for a little while because I had feelings for him, but I could easily hide them, and I can tell other guys like me, but I didn't know why I just wasn't good enough for the one I wanted to like me... :confused:

So about a week ago we went to one of our friends parties and we were in the hottub and one of our friends was flirting with me and he was getting all silent again and he wouldn't talk to me or anything and later that night he texted me saying that he's sorry and that he was just getting mad that nick was flirting with me and stuff and he told me that he was sorry and he knows that it wasn't his place to say that to him anymore.. so from that I was confused on what he feels for me...
And we talked almost everyday that week and decided that we would hang out the following weekend on Saturday (which was this past saturday)

Oh and did I mention that there is another girl that is involved who was his girlfriend before I was, and they hadn't been close in a very long time... but she just had a loss and he was there for support, or that was all he told me he was there for, but then they started hanging out and everything but he told me that he had ended things and they weren't anything anymore...

So when it came to the weekend and it was Friday we ended up hanging out with a bunch of people together and he drove me home and we were talking and he was saying how he might not hang out with me on Saturday since it was the other girls birthday Friday and I was like oaky but we had plans and all this and I was like well do what you want to and I'm not going to make you hang out with me and then it was silent for a while and he was like this sucks and I was like what, you got yourself into this do what you want, and he was like it sucks because I actually want to hang out with you melissa. And I was like then why don't you... and then we were at my house and he dropped me off and I was like well have fun I shut the door.

A few minutes later, he texted me saying he was going to hang out with me since he told me he would... and we started to text and I was saying how he should hang out with who he has feelings for and then I was like well who are you hanging out with and he was like I don't know yet! So the next day we were texting and he's like I'm going to hang out with you...
So later that night he came over, we hung out and he played with my little cousins for like an hour and was so good with them and cute and everything and then we went downstairs and watched a movie and we weren't really sitting by each other, he was laying down and I was sitting up and then when the movie was over we changed it and started to watch it, a little bith through it he pulled my arm to go over by him and lay with him and we were both just facing each other and we started rubbing eachothers back and everything and we were just laying there and he started touching me all cutely and then touching me.. everywhere.. and then he started to go down on me and as he did we started to kiss and it felt so good and it was amazing and we started to get kind of intense and then he went way way down on me ;) and I loved it and he did it for a long time, then when he was done we were just laying there and then I started going down and then we switched positions and that was nice ;)... when we were done we were just sitting there and he was being cute and then he had to go because he was suppose to go play poker with some of his friends...
Later that night I texted him saying if that meant anything and we talked about it and he said that he has enough feelings for me for that to happen... which made me feel happy since he said he liked me and stuff... he said he was just confused and he doesn't know what he wants.

But then last night was the worst night because we had planned to talk and he never called me and he told me it's because he didn't think he would want to talk to me since that's what I told him but our last talk was that he was going to call me, so it just made me think he didn't want to talk to me... and we were texting and he told me that

"I'm an amzing girl but he just doens't have those feelings for me anymore" this is the day after we had hooked up and he told me he did, which made me very confused... and then I told him that I think he did have feelings for me since he's been telling me he has for a while now but then he said "I'm rediculous! and the he told me how he felt and that i don't believe him and that he's sorry that it's not what i wanted to hear but it's the truth" and I said okay whatever and he told me that he "thought he had feeling for me but he must have confused physical attraction with emiotaionl feelings and he's sorry and that he was confused and that he knew it was a bad idea to hang out with me and he wouldn't stop saying sorry" But I don't get it because he was being so cute and he told me he liked me and I don't know
And then he hung out with the other girl right before he told me all this so I'm thinking they talked about it... but she is so not right for him, and I know it, I can see it...
I just don't get it, I care about him so much and I like him so much but I just don't understand why he does this to me and what he says means since he changes it so often, I just want to know so bad?

I just want him back in my arms for good, what do I need to do for this? I don't understand what he wants I just don't get it
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How many times does he have to tell you he ain't feeling it, before you get it?

Demand more for yourself.

If you let a guy rub you and touch you he's probably going to. Period. Especially when young... the temptation is strong. As long as you give him a chance for physical stim, he's probably going to take it.

You deserve to be chased. So make him chase you... which means back off. If he doesn't chase you, he doesn't want you bad enough. It really is that simple. The reality sucks when he doesn't... but you are complicating things. You want him more than he wants you... and you are throwing yourself under his boot.

Sure... you can hang around... tease... talk... all that noise... its just noise. The I-like-you-but-dont-feel-that-way-or-i-dont-know-what-i-feel stuff was pulled on me too. Guess what it got me? Mad, confused, used, pi$$ed and frustrated.

He might be all that, but until he treats you like you are worth the chase, the work, and the commitment... its all just noise coming from a pretty boy. If that's enough for you, do what you are doing. If not, step back.

I want to believe you talaniman, but he flirts with me too much and keeps me to close to him for me to believe that...

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Originally Posted by xomissmiissy

i want to believe you talaniman, but he flirts with me to much and keeps me to close to him for me to believe that...

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And you let him control you with words, and a little attention? Come on, I know you love yourself more than that. :rolleyes: He keeps you close because you let him, and he still does as he pleases with whomever, because you are still where he left you, waiting for his attention. Sorry, but you need to break that cycle, or you will always be waiting for him to give you something. He will all right, but it won't be what you want, or need.

Hey girl

I think its more of a pride thing with you. Its hurt.. Your like How could anyone not love me! I'm the best thing out there :)
Trust me I have the same feelings but lord knows for one reason or another they just fall out of whatever they were feeling for you. It happens but you can't let it brake you.


Have some self respect. And leave this guy in the dust he has made it clear he doesn't want you. You had your fun. Move onto better things :)

And leave him alone don't let him think he can just play with you and you will come running
Your not his pet are you?



Good luck girl

Regards

When I leave him he always comes right back telling him how much he wants me there as a friend and how important I am to him

Trust me I want to leave him so bad I want to forget him

You get the respect you demand for yourself, and sometimes not even that.

You choose what you get. There are other men out there. There's no "soul mate"... if he isn't going to chase you, then you are just setting yourself up for frustration.

Everybody goes through this kind of crap at some point. We get it. He needs to take charge and make a move or you need to let him be.

You can complicate it, but that just the truth. Its not fun, but it's the real truth.

Well if he is jealous then he likes you try not to do stuff like date his best friend or like people with the same name as him trust me I've had experience and don't bring up a boyfriend all the time and trust me you 2 will get soooooooooooo much closer now me and my friend are now going to that avril lavigne concert