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  • Feb 1, 2006, 11:30 PM
    TWK
    Iīm stuck in my relationship, big time!
    OK, basically I met a girl we started seeing each other, then she decided to stop things and when I had moved on she kept on coming back again and again. We ended up seeing each other again, no sex and then I summer things stepped up and we started going out, she then when away for 2 months and is now coming back. We are now going out, but our history is of not going out and just fooling around, then when the other person when with someone else the other wasnīt happy!

    My problem is that I think that the thing she likes is my company, but she is the type of girl that will go out pull others and think nothing of it.

    I donīt know what to do and how to prepare for the worst, the last thing I want is to get hurt again... :confused:
  • Feb 2, 2006, 02:13 AM
    DJ 'H'
    I think you need to be honest with this girl and tell her how it is. She cannot keep on playing games with. It sounds like she calls all of the shots and you just go along with it.

    Don't settle yourself short - tell her that she is either committed to you, or friendship is all you can offer her. Tell her enough is enough and fooling around is not an option anymore. Be strong and look after yourself. At the end of the day if she cares about you she will understand and will do the right thing by you.

    This is something you have to do for yourself. There are a lot of girls out there that would die to be with a lovely guy (as you sound) so I would not waste my efforts on a girl who did not appreciate me, and that could not let me know where I stand. Take control and don't go back on it. ;)
  • Feb 2, 2006, 06:32 AM
    fredg
    Hi, TWK,
    She is playing games with you.
    If you really like her, then have an honest talk with her about your feelings.
    She may not be the one you want for a girlfriend, or see all the time.
    There is someone out there just for you, who is caring, respectful, and likes you. You will eventually meet her, but this girl doesn't sound like the one.
    I do wish you the best of luck.
  • Feb 2, 2006, 06:35 AM
    bizygurl
    She's a game player, simply put. If you let her play you for a fool then she will. It sounds like you don't want to play games, most mature people don't, tell her to make a decision and stop using you when its convenient for her. If she doesn't want a normal relationship then move on.
    But until she makes the decision, don't call her or go out of your way to talk to her. If she doesn't want a normal relatiosnship with you, then you need to explain that when you do move on, she can't just waltz her way back into your life and expect you to drop everything, including another girlfriend , for her. She sounds as if she needs to grow up a little.
  • Feb 2, 2006, 08:25 AM
    talaniman
    You answered your own question since you already know she's a player then move on and stop seeing her and yes its easier said than done,but you still must leave her alone,and make yourself unavailable to her and please stick to your guns.She will never change and you can't change her so go out there and get someone who thinks like you regarding a relationship!:cool:
  • Feb 2, 2006, 10:00 AM
    nwsflash
    You need to stop your contact with this girl she is taking you for a fool and playing you big time! You really need to use the NO CONTACT rule with this girl.

    The best thing you could do is kick her sorry *** to the curb before you get BURNT big time.
  • Feb 2, 2006, 12:45 PM
    Wildcat21
    This is a very insecure gal who needs tons of attention. Not good.

    I'd end until she is ready to get totally serious. You're just going to experience more falls.

    I'd end the commications with her. She takes you for granted and there is little respect from her. Seems like you can not trust her.

    With out trust and respect - forget it.
  • Mar 1, 2008, 05:37 AM
    JL FANATIC
    Why don't you find someone else to go out with or just ignore her all together. She probably thinks that you are some kind of BLOW POP SUCKER and chooses to be with you anytime that she feels. Tell her you don't want to go out with her anymore because your feelings will get hurt. At least someone is being honest.

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