Originally Posted by JBeaucaire
Dating should be informative, you should learn things about yourself and men and dealing with relationships. So, what you're going through should be viewed as "normal", OK?
Unless you exert some control, your feelings will ruin your life. Feelings for an EX are unavoidable, you must quietly tolerate them while you move on with your life. When your next phase fully starts with your next attempted relationship, your feelings for your EX will fade back into an appropriately fond memory. For now, they are simply crippling unless you ignore them.
As for the second guy, go for it. But relax. I'd be looking for SEVERAL guys to date and get out there and have some FUN. You don't have to have a single, committed guy to be happy, and if you feel you MUST, then there's something you can work on.
Guys are much happier with women they date and eventually marry that are confident and self-sufficient. Clingy, desparate and needy are very unappealing. Don't you think?
Each relationship should teach you more and more, so don't be so quick to latch on, enjoy your freedom for awhile.