My wife and I became pregnant with our first son after dating for just months. This situation created a lot of stress mixed with hormones and things were very rocky. She left me on harsh terms, note the pregnancy, and I reacted immaturely by dating another woman for a short period (dating as in being in the company of another woman, not a developed or sexual relationship). I came to my senses and abandoned that situation before the birth of my son, that was about a 2 month period. I cut ties with anything in my life and got back together with my now wife. We got married, got a house, and are now pregnant with another child.
Now it's resurfacing, I'm assuming because of the situation that we created during her last pregnancy and the new pregnancy stirring that up, and I don't know how to address it. She says that she sees me as the person who did those things to her and can't see me as anything else, now matter how good of a father or husband I am.
I try to explain that it is a mistake I made and have only proved in the years that this mistake is not my character. But she sees that mistake as me.
Any idea on how to approach this, or ways to resolve it? Is it serious enough of a situation to contract a marriage counselor? I really want us to be able to move past this and continue with a great life..
