This whole deal is really a mess just to start with. I started a job about 6 months ago and I was sat next to this very beautiful girl that has the best eyes and most amazing personality I have ever seen. We sat next to each other for about 3 months and began to flirt more and more each day. About a month ago I finally got the nerve to tell her how I fell about her, the only issue is she has a boyfriend that she lives with, what a bummer yeah? Well when I told her how I felt towards her she asked me to go out that Friday night she told me she has been wanting me to ask her out for months now and so I told her I would take her out and knock her off her feet, all this time I knew she has a boyfriend that lives with her and so on. So I take her out to dinner we go to a couple of bars and have the absolute best time togather. I picked her up at about 7 on Friday and she went home at 10 A.M the next morning, keep in mind I respected this girl way too much to sleep with her that night we just sat there all night and talked about everything in the world it was amazing, lets not forget her boyfriend was calling the whole time freakin out. So that next Monday I told her it was way too much she has a man at home and it was not right at all, the whole time I have been talking with her she tells me over and over she is in the process of making him move out of their house, they don't get along and she wants him gone. It is now 2 weeks after our "first date" and he is still there the only thing that has changed is she comes to my house each morning so we can ride to work togather we greet each other with a kiss (it is truly amazing) but all the while I know she has a boyfriend which really breaks me down every time I think about it. So we went to a beer fest togather this last weekend out of town I was kind of joking when I asked her to go because she is not single and I was really trying to make her jelous by going out of town since we talk daily and text more than that. So, she did come with me we had a great time togather we did sleep togather that night and when we got back I started thinking and talked to a girl up there that is next to my sister, she told me she is playing games and will not leave him. Anyway, I told her that next Monday I was done with this and I did not want to do it anymore I was not going to wait around, and she cannot have her cake and eat it too. Well, I guess I am just weak because here I still am thinking about her not shuting her out and going on I just need SOME KIND of advise on what others think should I pursue this or really tell her to call me when he is gone?

Not an easy decision to make. But you've talked a lot, right.. so I assume you also have discussed her current situation... -is she happy now? Did she drop any hints of breaking up..

I'd say listen to her opinion first, have another long talk, and tell her how you really feel, and ask her how she really feels... is she planning to stay with her boyfriend, or is she thinking about breaking up? Is there a future for you, or is there not?
Your decision is best based on that.. however if there is any doubt in her mind, even the slightest, I suggest -hard as it may seem- to back off and leave her be... else you'll only be drawn in deeper, and it'll be only that much harder to let her go ultimately... because I fear then the outcome will be just the same...

Good luck though...

Do you know how she exactly feels about your relationship,if I can use "relationship" for you guys! What does she exactly want?have you guys talked about that seriously? As a man, can you share a woman with another man?As a woman,I definitely can't share a man with other woman!talk with her,ask her to make a decision,if no action from her,just move on!

I really appreciate the advise. Yeah we have talked numerous times she is 27 and I am 24, and this is part of the reason I have been wrapped up in this is because she has said since day one she hates to be with him she does not love him nor want to be around him anymore, he just does not have anywhere to go so she cannot just kick him to the streets. I am a very laid back person and I also can have someone to pass the time with it's just something about HER that makes me want to stay around and see, if that makes any sense.

Seth
Well you do what you do and you pay for your sins,
And there's no such thing as what mightve
Been, that's a waste of time; drive you out of your mind

I think that well if you mean anything to her whatsoever she'll get rid of that other guy for you, although she is probably having a hard time dealing with this.Because well if you like two people at once it's really hard to pick.. I kind of can relate... But oh well I hope she finds out what or who she likes more.

Leave this girl be until she is free , she has already cheated on him , that's a huge Red Flag , you could be next. Not only did she cheat on him but you did as well.

And I would suggest if she does dump her current BF let her be single for a couple of months , you don't want to end up being her Rebound , then we'll just see you back here in 3 months asking us why she dumped you.

Sorry to be blunt but that's the reality of it.

I agree with friend4u178. Just leave her, time will tell you she really likes you or not!

I totally 100% agree with that... The only thing is I have tried all this week to push her away there is another girl at work that I tried to date and when she found out I went out with this other girl she just came on harder and harder. It is very obvious she does not want to be with this guy she has been calling me when he is at home with her, the only problem is he does not have anywhere to go at this moment I know this sounds like some jerry springer stuff but it is really not like that. Also one last thing to add is what does everyone suggest when since I went out with this other girl all I could do is want to be with the girl I REALLY like and did not enjoy it at all, I mean I am starting to absolutely fall for this girl and I do not want to do that because just to start she does have this boyfriend.

Well leave her for now and forever. This girl is a cheater. Even if she plans to leave her boyfriend and comes to you. What make you think that she wouldn't do the same and be faithful to you ? If you go with this girl, first couple years yes, you'll feel the love. But after that you will live in the life that you worry most of time and constantly thinking of this girl is playing games with other guys. If you look to play games, you can go ahead. However, if you look for long term and potential wife, you will not get it from her unless something horrible wrong happens.