Okay, so I was in a relationship with this girl for 3 months. And while 3 months may seem like a short time, it seemed so much longer than that and the relationship became quite serious.
We both seemed happy, she told me herself how happy she felt with me and told me she was in love with me.
However, a few weeks ago she stopped talking to me completely. This went on for a couple of days until I met her by chance and asked her what was going on.
Anyway, long story short, it seems that over the course of literally a few hours she now just 'sees me as a friend' and that was our break-up.
I asked her if it was anything I had done, I was assured I had done nothing wrong and she just didn't feel the same for me anymore.
The one thing I can think of is that I seemed a bit clingy towards the end of the relationship; she hasn't said this to me, but from reading past texts I've noticed.

I accept I can't control how people feel, but the fact that the day before she stopped talking to me she was still telling me how much she "loves" me. I'm really confused, and I've tried to be friends with her when meeting with groups of friends, but it's really hard when to be perfectly honest all I want to do is kiss her and tell her how much she means to me.
It's been hard to accept that she had gone in such a short space of time with no warnings. And even our relationship as "friends" seems to be failing as it seems she doesn't particularly want to talk to me.

I just don't know what I should do. Obviously I'd do anything to get her back, but I don't know if that's possible.

Any help/suggestions would be appreciated, thanks.

I feel gutted for you I've been in the same situation before have you told her all you want to do is kiss her when you see her and tell her what she means to you?


Go to the link under this wrighting were it says how to get him or her back that's all I can say

Since dating is supposed to teach you things, not just about your dates, but about dating itself, what have you learned from this experience? What GOOD things have you learned?

See, you know that 3 months was nothing in terms of dating, but still try to convince yourself that it was more than that. But it wasn't. Feelings are fleeting and can't be controlled, usually. That's why you take a good LONG time to get to know someone before you invest a lot in them emotionally.

Your story was short, and I encoourage you to be more honest with yourself about what was going on. Regardless of what she said the day before you broke up, you broke up. Was it REALLY completely a surprise to you? There were no little hints at all, ever?

If it wasn't a total surprise, then be clear with yourself about the warning signs and pay better attention next time, next relationship.

If it really was a surprise, then she's a little nuts, then, isn't she? It goes to show you my first point is solid, real bonds take a long time to solidify and be reliable. The "feelings" are in no way reliable.

"...I'd do anything to get her back..." I sincerely hope you get over that. Slap yourself. Longing for the feelings, that's understandable, but getting BACK a girl who dumps you with no warning... you WANT that insecurity in your love relations? I sincerely hope NOT.

Suggestions - take off the rose-colored glasses and see/remember her truthfully, including the part where she said wasn't interested in you anymore. Hard to really invest your heart in someone who's telling you to "beat it", huh?

Don't think ill of her, either. That also leads to obsessive thoughts. Just let her be the fond memory she can be and remember to USE what you've learned in your next relationship. Don't move so fast, don't put a LOT of weight on what people say in relationships, focus more on what they DO. Yourself included.

We had been fairly good friends for close to 8 months before we started dating, and I thought I knew her better than most.

There is one more thing I didn't mention. About a week ago I was drunk with a group of friends, and she had been invited by one of the guys I was with.
She can't drink at the moment because of the medication she's on, yet as she was walking me to my house I did something that made her laugh, and I vaguely remember her looking up at me and saying "I love you".

This was about 2 weeks after we broke up.

So really confused... I'm trying to move on though.

Feelings are nice...

Words that express those feelings are nice, too.

Actions rule the world, though. You have to go with what is DONE over what is said or felt.

Hope you enjoyed it, while it lasted, and through no fault by anyone, feelings change. Unexpected, but it happens. Accept it, and learn from the experience. We never know how another feels sometimes, and we can miss a lot of signals, by being in deeper than our partners. Happens to us all at one time or another, so don't be confused, just live and learn.

She has made her choice so just respect that.The reason she will be avoiding you at the moment is because of the guilt of breaking up with you. The more you push the more she will pull away.