:mad: Many People don't understand me. I lost the reason I lived, my boyfriend. I loved him more than life his self. Yesterday, for the first time, I cut myself because I felt like a failure with nothing else to live for. It felt good to cut myself and it was a relief and I look forward to doing it again. I know I shouldn't feel like this but I do. Any advise?

Sweetie, you have got to seek professional help, or talk to someone in your family or circle of friends that you trust.

Cutting yourself is not the answer and, although it may feel good at the time, it is not a permanent solution to your problem.

Tell someone you know and trust about this, get help before this problem gets worse. I don't know what other advice to give you, I just know that this is not the road you should be going down.

Good luck.

I went through a horrible break up a little over a year ago me and my ex went out for 2 years, a lot of my friends cut and told me it relieved stress but I didn't do it cause I couldn't imagine inflicting pain on myself.

Its like he hurt me why would I want to go hurt myself and add to the problems, you know?

As of right now I'm going through a horrible break up again with another guy..

But no matter what you have to keep your head up you will find someone better and I'm sure your an amazing girl.

Guys come and go especially at this age, I've learned that the hard way.

U just have to put a smile on and do what's best for yourself and cutting isn't the answer that can lead to very serious problems down the road.

Never make a guy your worl, always put yourself first cause when it comes time there never going to put you before them.

I'm so sorry you are feeling so sad. I really think the best thing for you to do right now is to tell someone so you can get help. I think counseling might really help you. Is there someone you trust that you feel you can talk to like a relative, doctor, or someone? Are you still in school? Is there a favorite teacher you could talk to?

Although you may feel that you have no reason to live right now, that is not the case. You have so much ahead of you in your life. With the right help, you can get through this and be able to enjoy life again. Please ask someone for help. You deserve the chance to be happy.

Okay how it feels to cut your slef I have done it before. It really doesn't help at all but cutting yourself plays with your mind to make you think you fell much better when in reality you don't. Down the road you will regret it if you have a down the road. If you hit a vein you can have major blood loss and die. Or you can have enternal bleeding. Please stop it does not help. I love you even though I do not know you and I care about your safety.

What is different from before the cut and after the cut beside blood, it changes nothing in your life, if settles no issues or problems,
It only harms your skin and leaves marks you will live with for years and years to come.

If you are drawn to this please speak to an professional, if you are a younger teen, to your parents or school couselor. If you read the 100's or 1000's of posts here you will find many of us really care, we give of our time every day or week, we are not paid we use our own time to try and be here for you and others that need us. So you are not alone and you have a new "group" that will care what you do.

Hi lilmama,

Actually, my answer will not be any solution but just some words which I found in a book and wanted to share. Nobody will every understand you if you don't understand yourself. If you want to do something, if you like something, try you best to archieve it.. BUT you must be able to take the responsibility as well, everyone's thinks relationship will always end up with a pleasure moment. The fact is it some time end up in an unexpected result.

Be prepare for everything before you lose anything.

Thanks I will try to take everyone's advice into consideration. Thanks a lot I appreciate it.

Hi My Name Is Linda, And I'm Sure People Are Telling You
It'll Get Better , I'm Here To Tell You And Promise You It
Will. Your Heart Hurts, Almost Like You Can Actually
Feel It Breaking, And You Don't Think You Can Go On.
This Is One Of Many Chapters In Your Life, You Are Self
Mutalating And I Can Honestly Say, I Have Been There
And Have Done That, My Therory In Hurting Myself Was So I Would'nt Hurt Any One Else. It's Your Cry For Help, Please
Do Talk To Someone, Someone You Know That Will Listen With Out Judging, Your Not Alone, And Just Until A Few Years Ago, Self Mutilation Was'nt Talked About Or Dealt
With .it Is Now. Time Will Heal Your Broken Heart, And
With Help Time Will Heal The Physical Sc Ars That Are Left,
And Then A New Chapter In Your Worthy Life Will Begin.
My Experiance: I'm 50 Years Old And At 14 And 15 I Was
Mutalating My Arms With Razor Blades The Very Deep
Scars Are My Closed Chapters Of Many... Good Luck
People Do Care.. And If You Would Like To Talk. I'm Here
Linda

Im prety sure that a lot of the advice you get
Isn't going to help you because what you feel is the way you feel
`& a lot of my friends do cut themselvesz
And I`ve also seen it in moviesz and think that teensz get influenced

I can't tell you DON'T CUT URSLEF.. but
I can tell you that cutting yourself is putting you in more streess that you already are in.
Lovesz a complicated thing and itsz hard getting over your ex ; thatsz tru
But cutting yourself?
Your inflicting more pain
Some say that cuting themselvesz takesz there mind of their loved one
If thatsz the case then do something else
The last thing anyone wants is an innocent girl dying over love

And remember
Don't make som1 your priority if your only an option
If hesz past all of this love and stuff then why should you be the one waiting
Your sure to find som1 WAY betterr
Keep your head up
And stay safee..
:)

I didn't cut but I picked at my arm and now I have lovely momentos that people stare at but you know what it takes a person to get to the bottom and look around at everything and who you are. I hated who I was and I know the feeling of dreading getting up in the morning, not wanting to talk to any one, staying up to the wee hours because of insomnia, now you can seek 'professional' help and that may help they will put you on anti-dep meds and they will make you see a shrink and if you get a good one maybe they won't say uh huh every second word you say. But your other option is to slap yourself (literally) kick your own , ask yourself what the (bleep) your doing and stand up. Would your boyfriend want this? NO. Do you want this? NO. Does it feel good to cut? YES. Do you want to look at those scars when your in your 40's and have your own children ask you what they would from knowing if you told them the truth they would be like wth and if you lied you lied to your own children. Your boyfriend is gone but your not, it will take time to heal and you will hurt and if you hurt cry because that's what people are supposed to do when they are hurting. Don't drown in self pity and through away a perfectly good life.

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