So I know this having an orgasm thing can be a bit difficult for us women. I just wonder if age has anything to do with it. I am 18 years old and have been masturbating since I was 15 and having sex for almost as long. I have yet to have an orgasm. When I first started masturbating, I would stop before I thought I was going to because I wanted my first time to be with my boyfriend who was 2000 miles away at the time. Could that possibly be why? I also know that I could possibly be trying too hard. Sometimes, I don't try though. I just masturbate because I can. Don't get me wrong, I still enjoy sex. I just wonder if there is even a point in me trying. It just seems like right when I get what I think "about to" is, I stop feeling that wonderful feeling. I hit puberty later than everyone else, so maybe...

No, I don't think you can be "too young" to orgasm, some people are too young to have sex, but that's different all together haha... I would just say you're probably stressed or nervous, try to relax, and don't be afraid to experiment with other positions or touching yourself or having your partner touch you during intercourse, perhaps you need clitoral stimulation?

An orgasm, for women, is often attached to emotional / mental satisfaction. Some women do not actually achieve an orgasm from intercourse. It takes more stimulation for them. So, if you have not had an orgasm with your parter, it may just be a matter of more experience and open communication.

As for mastrubation. The benefits of this habit have been proven, so guilt should not be an issue for you, I hope. When you do decide to pleasure yourself, you need to spend more time exploring your own body. Take time and relax. Keep your thoughts focused on what, so to speak, turns you on. Put on soft music, light a few candles and get in the mood.


Keep in mind, that while you may end up with a great partner, some women just do not reach orgasm during intercourse. So learning how to mastrubate in a way pleasing to you, can then be translated in to better communication with your partner.

Hope this helps.