Is physical contact with another needed for sex to be satisfying? Is contact with another body part of the porn, in your head? When having sex with someone else and playing pornographic fantasy stuff in your head, at what point does the partner become an object?

There is nothing that can compare to contact between male and female genitals, hands moving and probing each other's bodies, and kisses and other tongue action all at the same time. No one can experience this alone. All of these things are a lot better if you are with someone you love and care about too, but that's just my opinion.

My life experience tells me that there are different kinds of sexuality to orgasm... from the urgent partner sex, fabulous sweaty monkey orgasm... to totally cerebral orgasm, the Mystical Experience, which can just occur as a person becomes, how to say it, totally in tuned with positive loving, a spontaneous orgasm of love. I wonder is this is what some call Nirvana, I'm not sure. It can happen anywhere, out of the blue.

My favorite sexual experiences have been the Mystical Experience, then, sex with a man who never touched me but really knew how to talk to a woman about sex(he was a Baptist minister :)), and another partner with whom we never touched each other's private parts... fabulous experiences, fabulous multiple orgasms.

A partner becomes an object when one is not interfacing one's own sexuality with the partner's sexuality... what's going on with the partner and his personality and positive life emotions is the turn on... If a person must run porno thought when having sex with another, s/he is with the wrong partner!! I think it is good to have an eclectic group of teachers of sexuality and enjoyment... then, teach others. :)

Choux, I wish I could talk with you to find out how they did that, without touching you! Really, I wish I could do that. Write an e-mail if you can!

Simone, I would say it is great especially if the partner knows your fantasy that is in your head, even if what is spoken is just a few words letting her know what you have on your mind that maybe you talked about in naughty detail before. The idea of her becoming an object, I don't know. Masturbation is nice, but... so is physical contact required for sex, yes.

I need that physical contact. Spanking the monkey gets you off but not in the way you can with a woman (or a man if you are a woman)


Oh, I once had a girlfriend orgasm just setting on my leg and carressing her without even touching her genitals... or moving my leg. And yeah the world class snail trail down my leg let me know she wasn't faking. Besides damn near having an epileptic seazure grade orgasm on her part.


Yes it is possible... and exceptionally rare.