Hi, this careaboutyou...

My boyfriend has 8 girlfriends online chatting with him almost every night...

I feel so painful..

Please help me...

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What's the nature of their conversation? And is he open with you about the fact he's talking to these women? (or did you go on a snoop?)

Why are you with him then?

If you give us more details then you will be able to receive better help from the rest of us.

Hi, I met a guy on pof 18 months ago. We said that hoping can build up a decent relationship in the future. I just found out he actually has profiles on lavelife and pof for hunting more women. He asked me to his house for sake of sex. I am sick of that but I still have feelings for him and he is stilling on msn chatting to more than 5 women and each of us didn't know he has so "many" women lovers (friends). I expressed myself so many times that I want to be with him and he said he is not going to make commitment at this time of his life. He has never ask me out for dinner or movie for about a year. I now realized that he is a lier and he has cheated all the women who been with him. All my friends said to me 'move on" , 'forget about this cheater, jerk, loser.." but I have hard time to make decision for I have developed all my feelings to him and the fact he cheated on me I just found out these days... he still keep all the women around him... is he sick?

Thank you marriedguy for the greenie! I have noticed you have given a lot to me so I will do the same!

Are the people he is talking to friends or more than friends? Are the conversations sexual? Does he have a profile on dating sites? If he is cheating on you, or trying to meet people online to cheat on you, dump him right away! You deserve someone who will be faithful to you and who is on the same page as far as what you want in a relationship. No need to waste time on someone who doesn't respect you.

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is he sick?

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Not sure about that but you may be if you feel you deserve someone like that.

If you don't want that 'just sex' kind of relationship then I suggest you back away. You want a comitment and he doesn't. I think it is time to find someone that does want the same as you.

I don't understand why you even consider this guy you'r boyfriend when he talks to other women.

He apparently uses you'r body and you're letting him.

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Originally Posted by careaboutyou

Hi, I met a guy on pof 18 months ago. We said that hoping can build up a decent relationship in the future. I just found out he actually has profiles on lavelife and pof for hunting more women. He asked me to his house for sake of sex. I am sick of that but I still have feelings for him and he is stilling on msn chatting to more than 5 women and each of us didn't know he has so "many" women lovers (friends). I expressed myself so many times that I want to be with him and he said he is not going to make commitment at this time of his life. He has never ask me out for dinner or movie for about a year. I now realized that he is a lier and he has cheated all the women who been with him. All my friends said to me 'move on" , 'forget about this cheater, jerk, loser.." but I have hard time to make decision for I have developed all my feelings to him and the fact he cheated on me I just found out these days...he still keep all the women around him...is he sick?

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Never let someone become a priority when you're just their option. Find someone that deserves your love and who will make you happy. I know its harder said then done but I think you need to listen to logic and forget about this guy.

I would definitely back away if you are looking for a long relationship don't think you are going to find it with this guy. Sounds like he told you he doesn't want a relationship. But that's what makes us want him more. Cause everyone wants what they can't have. I would look around some more eventually you will find the guy perfect for you. One that will settle down and you won't have to snoop on.

Thanks for all your support...

Never let someone become a priority when you're just their option. Find someone that deserves your love and who will make you happy.

Thanks... I will try to remember this!

It sounds like he not interested in you at all: never has been never will be - that's not to say you've done anything wrong or that there's something wrong with you. It's not a relationship - he is using you and you should draw a line under the whole hurtful business and concentrate on yourself for a while.